My personal response to people that look differently than I do, Speak differently, talk differently,Think differently,Love differently and Live differently ...., I take them in with compassion and intrigue... But the majority of individuals in society is threatened by our differences ... We are all different nevertheless together ... If my ideas of the way I Love differs from yours don't be frustrated or annoyed by that.. We all can have different ideas yet run the same chances at success in it.. Or the way a person views Sex or the way to raise a child .. The only thing Neutral Is Harm.. We all know what harm is.. But if im on the left side and your on the right .. Doesn't mean we can't find peace within that... Billions of people occupy Earth .. How Normal it should be to be different . When will we grow comfort in knowing this is beauty...@chrisdread

He shadows his pain

He was laying in the bed with his wife one evening.. Pale moon and the subtle sound of traffic moving by...,No tv, no music, just the sound of outside the window..she's laying across his chest and looks up at him and kisses him under his neck and says to him"babe you seemed sad today are you ok?? He replies "yea I'm cool" Frustrated, she takes a deep breath and says "your always cool, it's ok to be a lil weak sometimes, why don't you ever confide in me? He kissed her on her head and says to her hesitantly..."I grew up under different circumstances .. Being the only male in the family and the youngest I was never accustomed to openly expressing pain . Theres always so much pain in women that's raising u alone that if u can keep certain things to yaself maybe that would make her day easier .. Cuz knowing if u spoke about ur own issues she'll take on the stress of ur life as if it were her own, doubling her sorrows ...So I just stayed quiet.. It's crazy because now in retrospect,when I look back, it's as if They never really knew me at all ...They may have been living with a stranger never knowing of my dark days ...  So I don't come to you about my pains becuz I'm too busy resolving them own my own wile helping everyone I can ..to me that's how I define strength" @chrisdread 

A Woman Loves Her mans Hands @chrisdread

I'm bravest when I'm sad...when I'm happy I don't wana disturb that feeling so I take less risk .. Happiness so rare, I don't wana tamper with it..when I'm sad I feel I have nothing to lose ... So I can face anything ... But when I'm angry I don't think or feel at all .. Its as if my soul has turned it's back on me and my body is left to act in it's  own personal agenda ... My anger is what worries me most .  But as negative as sadness appears, it has it's advantages .. @chrisdread 

If we can look at love in our own Reflection rather than in a projection ...we would then understand what living is ... @chrisdread 

I asked her if she knew what being a woman meant ... She,said,no tell me ....... I told her it meant Unconditiinal Love..... Then I asked her does she knows what it means to be a man ... She said no... I told her Hurt, Pain and Confusion with a massive burden to lead .. She was completely silent laying on my chest ..I can feel her heart beating harder and faster... I'm so sorry you don't know what's I've gone through .. And I'm even more sorry you may never know .. @chrisdread 

Every time You start to feel you guys argue... Kiss her on her neck, and whatever you have to say that you know is gona escalate the situation , don't!! As a man sometimes leading is knowing when to walk away.. They want you to be the man still.. Even though they enjoy that position as well .. And whatever you do .. Never say "im Done" 1 lil argument y'all  get into now a days the first thing yall say to eachother is "I'm done"...  We have the shortest attention span in our relationships .. Any form of hard times we ready to run in opposite direction cuz it's so easy to meet someone else .. But no! We can't be done afta only 2 arguments .. Let's work it out, y'all love eachother right? @chrisdread

Porn gave us ideas ....Experience Confirmed them.. True Intimacy showed us love.. 

True details: couple days ago Was around someone I work side by side with ..he was having a conversation with a woman he's seeing .. In the exact moment he puts the phone on speaker she says" i love you sooo much baby, and my Prayers are with you"... now the first feeling I got was sentimental...Something about a woman saying that to you with so much sincerity can make u tingle .. But I thought something may have been wrong because she said my prayers are with you .. He says "love you too baby"So I said out loud "Man you must be doing something right bro that woman sounds in love ...... To my surprise he says "Man I'm bout to leave this bitch alone she's wearing me out, I don't have energy for my wife" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭... Sorry for laughing cuz it's not funny but it was apparent to me that I didn't know him like I thought I did .. He's a Older man really mellow dude.. Family man .. And here's he is expressing to me how this other woman is so good to him that's why he has her In His life and she's so spontaneous .. Does these sexy things that makes him feel young .. They do it anywhere in the car, all over the house,parks... And his wife just doesn't do it anymore .. I asked him, has he tried to let her know that.. He told me his wife knows who he is and what he likes ... And when they met he thought that spark would last forever .. But now tht he's over 50 he realized that everything he did in the prior years led him to the man he is now knowing so much more about life, himself and marriage ..he went along to say marriage should be loyalty and commitment and devotion Ect.. But for how long young blood(he actually said young blood) what happens when your body changes and ya wife body changes and the feeling of her youth evaporates yet your still capable of feeling 20.. Then he said something to me that I'd never forget ..he said " what people never tell you is tht loyalty and devotion also involves learning to turn the other cheek" and my wife made tht decision on her own .. And we have the best friendship and I'm never leaving my baby .. But for fun I discreetly do other things ..  He said something else that will stick with me .., "Chris I will never ever tell u to cheat on ya wife cuz my wife don't even call me a cheater, but it's BETTER TO HUG A WOMAN WITH 2 HANDS RATHER THAN ONE" I sat  on that for 2 days and I finally felt what that last statement meant.. Not having a father around to tell me the dark and the light of mans life, moments like this I take into consideration... But I will try and hug a woman with both my hands rather than one .. Thank you brother for that conversation @chrisdread 

I read somewhere once that when a woman experience an orgasm with a man she's in love with, it's like "Temporary Insanity" said by Doctors and philosophers .. It is a fact true that some women spend years having sex and don't achieve orgasm until truly, falling in love....And the emotional content of sex has a lot to do with the actual physical pleasure .. Also the spiritual and bodily connection 2 people have .. Now does this mean if you are not in love you don't experience good sex?? Of course not !!some people don't require emotional content to experience good sex.. You have some people that are bound to love .. And some who are bound to sex and or Human connection .. With  humans there are layers or classifications of life preference .. We are very sophisticated beings,All living amongst one another and we often attract people from different layers .. That's where u may find a guy not wanting a girlfriend and just may want sex or just a friendship  but the girl is all bound to loving him and wanting a relationship .. Or if a girl has sex with a guy all of a sudden he's forcing himself into her life, being overbearing and wanting to make her commit to Him meanwhile she was just having fun trying him out ...a lot of people don't experience love properly because we don't know much about it and never really admit that once you think you've felt it ..we love people in a fixed conditioned sort of manner .. "If you will do, then I will love you" most people don't experience falling in love wile loving themselves and really knowing yourself... If you knew yourself you'd know if your the person bound to love and commitment and wouldn't waste too much time forcing someone to love and commit to you that doesn't live or love the way you do and vice verse .. You can't just want sex and try and charm your concept of living on a person that doesn't just want sex and when shit go wrong we blame eachother ..it's insanity .. But because sex is soooo soothing and so raw and lusting and consoling and revealing and sooo pleasurable .. That becomes their middle grounds .. And we hate to admit that Aswell .. We all want it but to admit that you lose ya edge when it's time to blame someone when shit go bad ....just recognize who you have in front of you from now on and it's ok to love them but don't get stuck in a hole.. Know your boundaries and what you can handle ..  And personally I am a man I am still learning, and when I see a woman I am attracted to .. Idc which one she is "the Lover or the Liver" I'm talking to her.. Not saying anything has to happen but I live.. I don't block those things out. @chrisdread.blogspot.com

Sex is so amazing .. Especially the visual aspect ... Or that feeling, that misleading feeling when it feels so good for that moment u actually think u know each other,your so comfortable .. But as soon as u climax you go back to realizing there's still so much more to learn, or you wonder how much time y'all have left, of will it go somewhere...but wile your enjoying it, it's those sensations that matters.. It's amazing how we can attach and detach ourselves when we want to @chrisdread  

I'm gona say something that's so simple and obvious .......but"When you're Wrong,Just Apologize"I learn that more and more everyday as a man...Now in the matter of if the apology was good enough or on time is directly affected by how sincere the love is between the two of you....the only time people don't forgive you,when they know they love you,is when they feel don't need you anymore ..but when the love is true you can't fix what doesn't break.. Pride,Ego or just the Memory of the mistake will be put aside if the Love Is Real..@chrisdread

Est 1983

Est 1983 ..my generation is sexy. Gorgeous people .. Creative and full of life ..  Old enough to remember what love was like b4 cell phones and young enough to know how to use them ...we in the front .. B4 the younger generation takes over .. Let's make some noise .. Give them something to work with ... Revolution/Evolutions been dead.. The younger ones are gona be just as smart but more fearless .. But they need the information and a goal..only problem is their attention span is so much lower than ours with these fucking phones and the ability to curve anyone even meaningful people .. THats gona kill them .. Technology for them is no assistance like it was for us,it is a brain wash..they are growing away from each other . @chrisdread 

Humor, Good hygiene and Charm is 3 simple non superficial aspects women really appreciate in men .. Some dudes actually Spend money to substitute for the lack of ... When it comes to more complex non superficial aspects of a man like intellect ... Money can't purchase that .. And that's when u realize what kind of woman you've chose to engage with..  @chrisdread 

Success..... Such a relative term..  Don't not let Environment, Friends or any other outside factors shape your ideas of Success...Human beings are punishing with their useless opinions ..@ chrisdread

With intimacy there always a risk involved.. Learn to open up ur mind to learning that not all risk is harmful..@chrisdread

You be fighting with someone to give you their attention, or just for them to treat u fairly...making sure never to ask for too much b4 you earn the value....but when u finally get tired of of chasing something that always seems to be a step ahead of you and you slow the pace.... This is where they feel it's the best time to chase you and fight for your attention, as if you weren't just doing that same fucking shit... This right here is a "Game".. We've all done it.. Takes time to grow out of the race and to learn to power walk with someone with the same pace...I am also guilty. @chrisdread

When was the last time you was thrown against a wall and kissed so sexually that ya legs have out .?  Or had sex in such and unusual way, that u stared at the ceiling for 2 days straight... Y'all and y'all PG13 sex lives .. Y'all make me sick thinking y'all doing something ... Everday it's only doggy style y'all talking bout ... Doggy style ain't shit!!!!!! That's for teenagers who don't wana look in eachothers face ... Expand and experiment ... Know Yaself to the core ... @chrisdread

Seeing a Real man Loving a woman Is Infectious ...never had the opportunity to see my Dad love a woman or grow up in a household where I observed that... So I had to generate these ideas from the pain of women in my family .. So I more so knew what not to do rather than what to do... That, again, I had to develop on my own over time .. But can you imagine if every young man grew up in a house where a man truly loved his woman ... A place where he witnessed kindness from a man,generosity,Sacrifice, compassion,Compromise and the most important lesson..... Faithfulness.. Something we don't see.. Just the practice and the concentration it takes for a man to abstain from having  sex outside of a relationship... Although many may argue that this is an instinctive nature of men.. It is also something that can be better molded in you as an individual.... As goes for women .. To observe a true Queen at work .....Teaching that Submissiveness is natural when you have an appropriate leader as your lover ... Knowing when to give In and knowing how much punishment is too much... Being able to allow a man to run his household wile you pick up the pieces ... And when he's beaten down, knowing how To encourage him affectionately and truthfully ...never giving false confidence ..  Having the most functional truth system between the two... @chrisdread 

Do you know men silently suffer from broken hearts more than y'all realize it....... And yes of course it can be the result of a woman doing it ....but do you know one of the major reasons .... It's His own addiction.....trying to love several woman at once sincerely believing he can be there for them all but not realizing by loving so many at once you only gain a small portion of each ... Often resulting in each woman slowly but surely slipping away.. That's a painful process for him and only in his maturity he can see how conflicted his addiction made him ... Make no mistake .. Some PEOPLE, not only men have the capacity to take on several lovers.. But the heart is selfish and needs vary... You can't be everywhere at one time .. Saying Good bye is inevitable ... @chrisdread 

It's nothing wrong with loving your people .. Race Pride, For any, is an expected mentality  ...I guess the problem lies in bringing harm to other races,due to this high level of pride and sense the of Entitlement... War within ones own race is a natural process .. In fact Africans owned Slaves long before any white person Got to Africa ..Unfortunately they had,Tactic, And Weapons ...then we were taken under more brutal circumstances....But all races had slaves of the same race.. Something common I guess ..but the brutality black people suffered,and even presently, is something u just can't ignore ... But we endure.. Proud of who I am and what we are .. We are beautiful people with Love for everything and Everyone ...,Sadly,except ourselves ....We have made the transition from facing a deadly advisory ... To still facing that issue in addition to hating each other... We have made it easy to stay defeated .. We have shamed our last known Revolutionary Generation .. We can no longer hold anyone else accountable if we are causing just as much harm to ourselves ...There are some who are awake and aware ...But We can't forget Love...because when black people find peace within themselves .. The whole world will change... @chrisdread

The Female heart is Durable ....Able to break several times and repair itself like a muscle ...  When a mans heart breaks, it shatters like glass, never to be whole again... Some of the men who say they love you, tho may mean it, a lot of women don't  realize that the action behind love he may not be able to show either cuz of a shattered heart or a heart that's premature ... But with women,Men feed off the fact that"hey, her heart breaks, but she'll be ok, she'll be fixed in not time..some may call that strength some may call it a weakness .. But this is why men and women are not equal..  We are both completely special and unique in our own way but tho we are different we are made for eachother .. @chrisdread  

A man isn't born with the notion that he has to be a committed Husband.. It is not on his natural instinct... That has to be taught from within the moral of his environment and from inside his home .. A woman is not born with the instinct to be a committed wife and practice Monogamy.. That is taught within the moral of society and within her home... But before she's even taught commitment to a man... She is told that a man is supposed to financially,take care of her which promotes materialism.. Before a boy is shown the importance of devotion and commitment to his wife he is told that financially you are to take care of your wife and family...Now the problem with this is that,what women face is a male generation that feels as long as he provides that he can treat a woman how ever he wants and what's really sad is that a lot of men can't even provide.. This also gives the woman the idea that if he can't provide based on her opinion, then he's is not worth her,and he's to be dropped so she can find another man suitable to suffice her..Society has not yet,stressed how primary "Love" "Devotion" And "Commitment" should be.. And until we realize that its not lack of love that's  breaking families and relationships apart, but the conciseness of money or lack of it is the real reason...Then we will never understand the true meaning Of Love and family .. As a man if you think to Yaself.. What has been the "Woman's" biggest issue in relationships ? I'd think it would be her man not able to stop having sex with other women.. But now a days you see the transition from women more so saying nonsense like "all men Gona cheat just don't let me find out" where they accept that idea.....being satisfied with thinking as long as he can provide I am his number 1, never aiming to be his only ... The biggest issue I see for men is being accepted for who they are rather than what they can provide .. Sooo much good men lay in void simply because they are the overly devoted type or don't come with enough complication.. Their boring or too clingy which confused them because these men listen to your complaints and needs and conformed for you and y'all still don't want them.. Or a man just feeling his love is treated insignificantly because he doesn't have enough money or that  corny word "Swag" to keep your attention .. We gota do better.. @chrisdread  

Being faithful and committed is a practice .. It's not an instinct or something that's automatic ... You have to one,make the decision that the area if life your in, you can manage the desires to be with more than one person because if you know you can't then your not ready.. One things for sure ... Your never Gona learn to be faithful unless your able to cut the sexual ties between you and other people and focus on one... A lot of people aren't willing to do that right away ... Practice on it. @chrisdread

Wile y'all out here Singing Hot nigga doing the Shmoney dance..The police out here Whipping our ass and shooting only niggaz!!! But y'all celebrate to a song that promotes killing eachother .... So blind y'all can event realize that a new order is in place... A order that tells police to use brutality and murder to allow us to see we still have no power.. Why y'all think they allow us by law to video tape it.. Cuz they know all you zombies is Gona post it and show their power over us... Promoting anger and further violence ...  It's a cycle ... All over again.. Welcome to the beginning stages of the modern civil rights ... And when the war spill on your streets on your blocks and we look around and can't find none of our soldiers cuz we killed eachother and we all in jail..  You would only wish then that you wasn't just some Dancing Niggers!!!....who Gona fight tht war? .. @chrisdread

{OPEN THOUGHT}You ever see someone you so attracted to and you know if u had them you would love them down and treat them right and appreciate them ... But the way their boyfriend/girlfriend treats them makes u second guess them ... Like how the fuck this ugly ass cornball nigga get this gorgeous chick...and they way he speaks to her or about her is like trash or like he's bored with her or something ...And u know you cooler than that person yet she chose him!!!your like,"nigga u better treat her good this chick did u a favor by being with you"...Shit makes u a totally second guess Yaself like wait, do I, have the problem here, is something wrong with me by being attracted to this woman, lololol ..why the hell does this lame not appreciate her?? Then u start thinking something wrong with her for being with that dude.. Like her breath must stink or she's farts constantly !!!something!! ....{It's funny how when people want someone so bad and they think their so gorgeous, then when they finally get them their bored all of a sudden and want something else...always remember someone else thinks that person is just as gorgeous as u once did and will in fact, take them off ya hands ..  You treat a treasure like it's trash, someone else will make Gold out of it.}@chrisdread

When a man teachers her something she's never known ... Or pleases her sexually to a degree she's hasn't experienced before .. His Enchantment never  fades..@chrisdread   

"Take it from me son..,A good wife Is Peace..She's the Equator.. She is your center.. When your Furious and Enraged, your wife should be able to Hold your face gently and say"babe calm down" ...if she can't calm you, you have not yet trusted her, and you have not yet accepted her position in your life as your peace and center..you are her Husband....When she is afraid you should be able to restore her Courage with your Confidence and Bravery .. And when there's Struggle,you do not open the option to leave,looking to another person who is more suited to provide.... You keep your eyes on each other,let one another be your motivation to press forward and progress, you live for each other, not with the option to abandon one another..And when making love to her, only she should be able to speak a body language to you so vivid,that her touch transforms into ideas,visions and suggestions..A complete telepathic experience.. The only Soil worth planting seed.." @chrisdread

{NOBLE:having or showing fine personal qualities or high moral principals and ideals..} .... {My thought}..I love words .. The use of words are so underrated and underestimated..you learn this by listening to other languages out side of the English .. When translated,the sentence are much more articulate, and oddly the true sense or definition of a word, is more deeply felt.. A word like Noble, we hear it all the time and until we look up the definition, then only you see how the word is meant to be used.. I look up everything constantly all day, every single day of my life now .. And nothing like a book of Synonyms.. Shortcuts and variations of possibilities of expression..Learning better forms of speech is simply a power.. Lethal even..@chrisdread

Don't waste too much time on old lovers and people you fell out with, doing everything u can to keep the lines of communication open wile their doing everything to close them ... Pay attention to the people that's been there and the people who's trying to get to know u ... Trust me I'm a firm believer in fighting for what you love but sometimes there's a limit ..you have to recognize when certain people have no intentions on being the same with u like they once was.. People evolve and you have to see that for what it is ... @chrisdread 

Experiences Gives you knowledge.... How you  Articulate those Experiences makes you Intellectual...,How you live your life based on the lessons you learned from your experiences and how well you can describe the Lessons you've learned Expresses Wisdom ..., Now who you select to share all of this with allows you to Give the most meaningful Information ... Knowledge/Intellect/Wisdom/Information @chrisdread 

I send all the sincerest well wishes to all the Real relationships and couples trying to navigate through society privately with love and compassion for eachother.. A society where nearly everyone and everything in it is fake.... A society set on materialism and not love...A place where taking a good picture of her hand on his hand in the car is more important than them 2 having a real conversation about eachother ...to all of u who are in those relationships that is filled with truth and trust, you set Precedent for all who may observe .. You maybe the only example of the possibility of devotion for miles .., hold tight and hang in there ..because your human as well ..  You may fight you may argue but the difference in you guys are, y'all are really trying to stay together for life ...and not just for the moment .. Not just cuz y'all look good in pics together .. But because y'all have a life plan and through it all it involves the both of you till your last days ....God Bless you and I wish you well..@chrisdread 

There's a system of doubt in what Black Man can achieve ... If we ever band together, the world would fall to it's knees...A Race of Kings forgotten from the past, the strength in our blood that made us outlast...the nightmare of being stolen,beaten,left bleeding... Grabbing your wife away from your grip wile she's pleading.... They make her strip.... They rape her in front of you to damage your soul... Then when you become a ragefull  beast ,they Lable the black man cold... Why is it that they hate us so much...So much  that they made us hate ourselves .... Made us hate eachother ..  My own brother.. @chrisdread 

Sit back for a Second .. Think about the Sweetest Person you ever Dated ...now ask yourself, why were they Different ...now if that person isn't the one your with .. Take those differences, not only apply it to yourself .. But try to associate it with what your looking for next .. Because if your weren't focused enough to hold on to the sweetest person you ever dated.., Then They deserved to be remember and gain the recognition of At least  teaching you better.. @chrisdread 

Never judge or assume someone's character when their chasing you ... You judge it after you finally let them catch you... Because who that person was becomes AftA they have you, that's the real them ..Not that Super Hero you thought they was in the beginning ...@chrisdread

Success is weird ... It's sort of evasive yet it resides right under your nose ..sometimes everything can't always be calculated, can't always be priciest .. "Sometimes success begins In a Fear and ends in Risk" a risk in the dark that transforms into light ..In all honesty not every one deserves success that is successful .. Success is not owned by the Good.. It's owned by the Fearless.. And Fear is the mother of all fuck ups..@chrisdread

Movie night

It's something bout that moment when a woman ask to come over just to watch a movie ... Lol ha.. Every gentlemen has 2 theories about this .... His first Agenda is to actually watch the movie.. You know.. "Take her word for it" lol..😏.. So he might pick a scary movie.. That's that"she might wana get close to me when she get scared" tactic..or he may pick a chick flick.. That's the "she may get all mushy and sentimental with me"tactic ... Or he may put on a comedy .. Cuz face it, Chicks love to laugh and laughter release oxytocin"the Joy/love hormone" or that action movie, she may like the excitement, the adrenaline may turn that ass on... But realistically most people can relate that "Not even 15 mins into the movie, when a woman willingly wants to come over and watch a movie and y'all really attracted to eachother .......... Her hand is on ya toti before the intro music is over .... Now that thigh is across ya body so you know u gota palm that ass now .(here we go) you squeezing it now... You done kissed her on her neck(awwww shit!!!).. Out comes the titties..... 45 mins later y'all like " yo, start the movie over we missed the whole movie ... Lolol.. She cute, playing dumb like " I was trying to watch the movie but u started with me... Then she like"can you get some juice please.. Oh and get me some snacks.. Oh and roll up..😏 @chrisdread

Guy and girl has a debate about sex.. The guys says "Sex is probably the most important thing in a relationship between man and woman ...the Girl totally disagrees..she says ... "Sex isn't the most important thing To everyone, I rather a Guy that can provide for me and the kids and if the sex ain't good oh well atleast I got a great provider....the guy had a Huge problem with this Lie.. He says "that's ridiculous, u mean to tell me if the sex isn't good and there's no way to improve it then you'll either stay or be faithful ?? The girl says "well if he's taking care of me yes!" (Another lie he thought)..So the guy says "well what happened to taking care of Yaself and feeling alive" she said "don't worry bout that just know if I'm taken cared of I'm happy with that" 😒..he says to her"yo stop lying, sex is everything in a relationship" the girl say "maybe to you but not me" he said "oh really?? So sex isn't everything ???" She say to him, "no it's not" sooo frustrated, the guy takes a deep breath and says .. "You know how I know sex is everything.... If that same guy that can't please u fucks some other woman and u found out,would it break ya heart??" She goes "well of course it would" he smirks 😏 and says "because Sex is Everything" @chrisdread

"She has to walk several blocks home.. Can't help the body her mama gave her, she's bad.... Every day she'd walk by,all the Fellaz on the block would hound her .. The thing about a woman who's heart belongs to a great man is how she conducts herself when he's not around ..  No matter how handsome or flashy a guy was she never made eye contact with anyone.. Or she would quickly pull out her phone and pretend to talk .. Even the men with the most manners approached her and complimented her she would give a subtle thank u and maybe just maybe a smile.. But To a man on a hunt, a subtle smile is like an open window ..  Hers was closed so she was very cautious .. Some men even called her a bitch or stuck up Hoe, I've heard them ... Me, I never say anything 

To her .. Funny she would always acknowledge me.. Like she appreciated my silence... She sometimes nods her head like she's saying hi to me ... And I'd nod back... Funny thing was, I'm playing ball in the park one day and the guy playing against me said "time out"... He walks towards the entrance of the gate where we seen him walking to this same girl ...this gorgeous woman that no man can seem to even slightly impress wraps her arms around this sweaty man and says" hey baby I missed u all day.. He said "I miss you too babe we Gona go in 5 mins let me just finish this game" he runs back ova to us and says"Fellaz let's go I gota leave just now" so as we started the game again, {remember he's guarding me so I'm right next to him.}.. We kinda end up near where she was standing and he simply a says to her.."babe you look so gorgeous today" the next 10-15 mins or so I watched this women smile from ear to ear AftA he said that .. Like he made her feel like a little girl .. Then it dawned on me.. Everyday of her life a million men can compliment her but the only one that makes her feel different, makes her feel alive is the compliment from the man she loves.. Like she reserves all joy of the thousands of compliments she gets all day just to get that one from him and she can let out her happiness ..... Automatically this made me more so admire him .. True lessons in urban streets .. True King and Queen actions amongst average citizens .. I have the eyes to see that. @chrisdread {fiction}

One of the most fascinating things 2 people who loved each other can do ... Is Break up, go on with life, becoming more and more Confident, Smarter, Stronger, becoming Sexier and greater Professionals and business men/women, having to constantly Cross paths and genuinely be impressed and adorned by each other's  progress and pretending that your not, and pretending that y'all are not perfect for each other because your stuck on this principal that strong people don't move backwards .. But who ever said love has any particular direction ...The heart is just trying to find it's way Back to the basics.. Back to whats most familiar, and we complicate that with outside principals that's not always our own.. Why claim you want love when sometimes you know the person in ya life now is a faulty substitute of what your heart is trying to gain back .. The more we collide with the truth,the more we destroy the Enchantment of ever really living happy with someone else..now if the new person in your life is truly a love match then that's great, but enrich the experience with everything you learned from the past,good and bad always staying true to who you are and what form of lover you really need, not what society sets you up with  @chrisdread

This post is in response to a lot of woman that found it hard to accept my last blog stating "A MAN CAN NOT UN-LOVE A WOMAN WHO HE TRULY LOVED

Again..key phrase "true love" if a man loves a woman for one thing "today's and tomorrow" then he didn't TRULY LOVE HER.. Please, no bitter black woman ideals necessary .. Y'all are strong, independent and crave sex and materialism more than ever.. So it's no need to Go against a mans  principal of love as if we don't have any... Its a new day.. We are not in need of every fraction of our psychological potential to be diluted by personal experience Gona bitter, made general towards every man ... And I don't agree .. Women are geared to love all their lives cuz they're less men who are willing to commit and actually be a good provider, nurture and a pleasure tool to his mate plus the competition is a lot higher for her cuz of the ratio of women being so hi .. So she's fighting to find love everyday and is more willing To put her all into a relationship, believing that she loves a man even if she knows she doesn't know him as well as she could .. And if he hurts her she's even willing to love the same kind of a man over and over again finding the same results .. That's actually the true definition of insanity .. Where as a man has an abundance of choices to good women willing to commit and be good to her man and a good mother to their kids .. And we all know it's human that when things are in abundance we take them for granted until u mature to an area where u can appreciate all things as unique blessings, no matter the number of them available  .. A man will play the field developing his sexual characteristic, developing his charisma, developing his professionalism that's required to make a woman secure based on his provisions ... So to get that man to TRULY LOVE.. Bet and believe it not often and it takes a lot more to convince him of his hearts worth .. So wile men get titles like dog or womanizer .. What you are  observing is his constant appetite to love without ever reaching it cuz he is stuck on the fact that he has options and not focusing on quality and seizing the moment with quality ... Enabling him to do the same thing over and over gaining the same results .. He is also insane and TRULY heartbroken as well..  

I've never been the religious type..I'm more spiritual and cultural type of individual.. I feel less restricted.. But the  "Tea Drinking" culture is one I've always felt connected to .. So much honor in simply and drinking  and they way the Japanese serve tea.. It's very intimate and romantic... So much enchantment in the way a person serves you.. "One of the most endearing gestures is someone offering to drink tea with me" if anyone knows me really well, they see me drink tea all the time.. I drink tea on average 3 times a day ..warm or cold .. But I really wish I was in a habitat that practiced these customs.. Sometimes where u are is not where u belong .. So you have to improvise.. Maybe the woman I end up with can either feel the same about tea or adapt to something meaningful to me.. So much intimacy in drinking tea with someone that means something .. I love especially drinking tea when I burn a spliff .. In the pic at the bottom is fresh mint leaves my mom got for me.. A lot of antioxidants in tea.. Really good to put in your body 

I don't trust not one Human... I like people to know this very early on ...... I  just rely on certain people to do less damage, less harm than others... But No ones worth trust .. This is not something I'm proud of.. Some people go around talking bout they don't trust no one like their some Vigilante, living in a world with no trust in your heart, your working 10 times harder but with more precise results cuz there's no one else to fuck something up but u .. But people who do place trust in others work less hard with the Risk of something going wrong in someone else's hands..that's not something I'm willing to do, yet I'm not proud of the fact that I don't trust .. But this is what happens when too much lustful,greedy people force u in that safety box.. You never wana come out @chrisdread 

A man Can Not Un-Love a woman ... Once he loves her he loves her for the rest of his life.. A mans true love is  irreversible .. No matter how Dirty the B**ch get.. Hes always waiting to say "Yes" to her again..has always waiting for her to need him one day.. Cuz he wants to see her and reminisce.. He's always Gona talk about how they first met and remind him how much she meant to him...@chrisdread

I've never been the religious type..I'm more spiritual and cultural type of individual.. I feel less restricted.. But the  "Tea Drinking" culture is one I've always felt connected to .. So much honor in simply and drinking  and they way the Japanese serve tea.. It's very intimate and romantic... So much enchantment in the way a person serves you.. "One of the most endearing gestures is someone offering to drink tea with me" if anyone knows me really well, they see me drink tea all the time.. I drink tea on average 3 times a day ..warm or cold .. But I really wish I was in a habitat that practiced these customs.. Sometimes where u are is not where u belong .. So you have to improvise.. Maybe the woman I end up with can either feel the same about tea or adapt to something meaningful to me.. So much intimacy in drinking tea with someone that means something .. I love especially drinking tea when I burn a spliff .. In the pic at the bottom is fresh mint leaves my mom got for me.. A lot of antioxidants in tea.. Really good to put in your body 

"Get over you for what? I love you.. Now if you choose to move on that's your business.. But I'm happy with feeling the way I do about you.. We didn't work out but it was an absolutely positive experience... I do me,but nothing feels as good as you yet...so leave me be and let me Honor you the way you deserve" ........ The nigga just walks off and she was standing there with her hand over her chest as if she was saying "what the fuck" .. She smiles and turns around hand walks in the other direction smiling ... @chrisdread

Embrace the idea that a man can love you as much as you claim you want him to without feeling he's annoying you once he does all the things you wanted, and instead of appreciating it, you go run AftA the kind if man that pays you no attention and rather runs the street.. Embrace the idea that you will find a man that will actually not need to have sex with someone else besides you because if you go around saying things out loud like "all men cheat just don't let me find out" then that's what they will do .. You cannot dream of a perfect life with a man wile your going around supporting the Ideals of your broken hearted mothers and grandmothers and Aunts..These things y'all say are taught to you from bitterness of others .,you where not born with those ideas.. Their lives and experiences does not have to be yours, also personal experiences of your own based off your fucked up decisions in the men you chose..Yes, finding a devoted faithful lover is hard but it becomes harder when u accept and live by the principals of broken hearted women that came before you ..you ladies have to realize that there's also satisfaction in a mans simplicities, he doesn't have to be complicated to be pleasurable .. Y'all know what I'm saying .. @chrisdread

The ones u never get over are the ones that was so good to you when you were so Bad... Then when u finally become good, you become lonely ... You never get over a good person ..  And those bad feelings u feel when you know you missed out on a good thing is completely necessary for you to learn how to appreciate and hold on strong to the good people to come ... I never try to school people I just wana share all my hearts experiences... @chrisdread

Two good friends Eric and Kevin was having a drink .. Kevin asked Eric  .. "So how you and that girl you met a couple months back doing?" He replies"we don't speak anymore" Kevin asked why.. Eric said "I don't even know bro, I really liked her, and everytime I did lil nice things for her she'd always say.... I never met a guy that does these kinds of things ... Kevin asked"so what kinds of things would you do" Eric said" I'd cook for her, rub her feet when she came over with warm oil .. I would take her by her hand and Dance with her in the living room , and one time I even seen a tear in her eye wile we danced . I thought she was really into me, it just seemed different you know, I tired my best especially since I got laid off, I tried to always be creative...but she just kinda slipped away...we used to laugh constantly, and talk for hours, and not just any talk, deep intellectual convo..  Kevin replies to him" damn I'm sorry to hear that...so what is she doing now" Eric says" I think she's back with her Ex, that nigga that hustle, cheats on her and beats her ass.....Kevin says "ha, makes sense, they'll call that love over what it should really feel like..plus that money he spends on her she'll calls security and not bribery.." Eric goes" ahh! What times does the game come on.." @chrisdread

This The Era of the "Screen Shot" ... Now u gota be extra cautious as to what either meaningful things you text people or what pictures u send people .. Cuz folks now a days is some exploitive nasty ass mutha fuckaz... Evidence and Proof is what people like now.. Be careful.. I follow my lessons too yo trust .. But ima man, I say or do nothing in shame... But hey that's what u gota go through now.. Oh and them lines people drop when they say " oh I don't talk my business" they a damn liar..  Always have been always will.. Make sure what u show and give people is something u can live with had it ever got out.. @chrisdread

Seconds,Minutes,Hours, Days,Weeks,Months,Years seem to be flying by..  Yet I'm not concerned with Where it all Ends.. I'm smart enough to know time has no ending.. It's always pending .. The value of time does not reside in where it begins it ends .. But how well we used our time in between.. What we chose to dedicate our time to or who we chose to give our time .. Making more meaningful decisions day by day ...  I have narrowed down what stimulates my use of time most... LOVE/PLEASURE/WORK/CHALLENGES ... Love of family, Friends and the most meaningful love I've experienced... Our children.. Pleasure, all things that make me feel good mentally and physically.. Music,food Ect..Especially Sex.{I can't stress this enough}... Work... And objective, a purpose.. All humans have a desire to work and complete a task.. To be useful.. And Challenges... I love to be challenged.. I love competing when friendly .. That's how u grade your value..  @chrisdread 

To my Homies.. Every one knows I'm someone that loves being single and truly cherishes the feeling of being able to do anything I want,go anywhere I want, say anything I want without bearing the weight of guilt.. But I just wana say to my homies, I'm no smarter than any of you, I'm no better than any of you, all I wana do is share this feeling.. Finding a great girl you can trust NOW A DAYS... Is soo much harder than ever.. The things I hear women say and what they post on social sites is unheard of.. Things u would never see 10-15 years ago.. Most of them have completely lost their fucking mind.. We are not prepared for them to act like Horish,money crazed men.. We don't know how to handle the modern girl.. How we operate with women is to initially believe what comes out they mouthiest truth  because all our lives we were told we were dogs and they are Angels.. So when a women says"I'm only fucking u" now a days, half the time that's a lie...Women 30 and over still have a lot of old ideals and some younger women think and live old fashion but very few.. The majority of women now will date several men at a time and will put money as their focus rather than love and what's to blame for this is a number of things.. Choosing a wife has become, well for men, as hard as it has always been for women to choose a Husband..all kinds of advice has been thrown at women to improve their love life and idk what has been affective for them but..... To my niggaz out here, if u reading this all I want to say is, if you find a woman now a days who's good to you and appears to not have these modern girl tricks up her sleeve, Please Please hold on to her.. Don't make the mistakes I did and a lot of us do by thinking that cause you meet so much women on a daily basis that you have time.. Im beginning to realize that that window is limited .. If you get the opportunity to meet a woman That weakens your spine, No matter her past or no matter yours, accept her like she would accept you.. Love that woman .. Become her greatest friend.. Learn from eachother, find a way to block out society for a minute.. Make sure she's a woman that does not lust over celebrity relationships cause those women are the most destructive and complete air heads ..make sure she's kind.. Make sure you protect her, make sure she learns from you, don't demand her, let your love subdue her will... Every playboy/womanizer/dog/hoe or whatever other Lable women give men, Heart is empty, men just don't tell u that .. It's empty and broken and he would love To love one girl,he's just good and loving many.. Because they all seem to need you..take my word for it yo... If you find that spine tingly love please keep it.. I've lost it countless times and getting it back either never feels the same or it just doesn't come back.. There's no shortcuts ... I know that now.. Your either Gona give up your perfect single life where u had countless bad chicks at arms reach having fun With that and fulfilling all ya fantasies, or you Gona meet that girl that you KNOW is different from all else and say good bye to variety and hello to Commitment.. Only commit if u have the strength .. If not don't hurt her.. I'm am still in the lesson of my own mind, I am not a hypocrite ..I will be my own perfect teacher.. @chrisdread

I talk about relationships so much cuz I had so much relations..  Anyone that has so much experience doing something  and they don't learn lessons from it enough to analyze and give back is an introvert .. We are all out here living,experiencing things at an accelerated rate.. We are all Sociologist.. Just not all of us need to express our experiences Intellectually..but I do. @chrisdread  

It's just that feeling is missing .. We are becoming incapable of missing that person as much as we once did.. It's like we are becoming more independent as lovers.. I wana miss someone to the point of frustration and I just can't seem to feel frustrated about anything anymore ..I mean come on y'all .. Sooo much of u are in these half ass ,fake, dishonest mild relationships and by entering those, your fucking up the enchantment of what a real commitment is.. And don't point the finger at me and say it's me, or you, or men, or women.. It's more than that .. It's these times, it's technology turning us cold,it's this fucking city !! Its the constant chant of money, it's the music, it's reality tv,it's social sites.. Look around yo.. And No one is addressing these things because they scared us out of a revolutionary stand.. Anybody say anything real on a major scale ends up dead..we are sinking and as a parent,uncle and God father of 7.. I'm really feeling it for them mainly..like how the hell do we get our lives back...@chrisdread

I'm not the type of man that will tell a woman something I didn't mean just to get what I want.. Let her feelings linger and grow based off of false pretense,then when there's a downfall of some sort I slap her with the Okie Doke... No no that's not me.. I'm the nigga telling u exactly what I DONT want and what you CANT HAVE from me.. You measure out how bad u want me after I tell you all the things that I don't see in you or Us happening ..now the only thing that can occur is that I stick to the grain and actually do exactly what I said I would or the things I didn't see possible with us, getting to know u and loving u enough maybe would change that. But again I am not here to confuse nor hurt a woman by any means but somehow this is still the classification of a womanizer.. Every woman claims she wants honesty but the truth is y'all are so annoyed and offended and challenged by it tht even when u know he did the fair thing... Not getting what u want in the end enables YOU to be the unfair one lying to Yaself only to convince Yaself that you didn't do this to Yaself .. Which u know u did..Cause aslong as a woman has a man to blame, she can move on.. @ chrisdread

So let me get this straight  ladies...... Men LITERALLY ask to take YOU  out, KNOWING they ain't have no money on them that day... But got dressed attempted to smell all good then came to pick you up and didn't mention he ain't have money until something had to be payed for????!!!! Because when you have a lot of homegirls and all you hear is testimonies, the stories y'all tell me is unbelievable ...like why even put Yaself in that position if you ain't have money that day .. ESPECIALLY  In today's society where women make bread and will offer to take you out if u ain't have it.. Why set Yaself up for that especially knowing black women will be texting her best friend the whole time talking bad about u now u know as the broke nigha smh I can't.. I'd stay home if that's the case @chrisdread

If she try to see you when she got that Period..  If she means something to you,It's a test you better pass..lol.. Ladies, u ever had plans all day to see a nigga and right b4 it's time to come over u finally tell him u have ya period and suddenly he don't text back or his plans change😭😭😭😭😭or u actually go over there and he acting all sexy at first and then next thing u know AftA u tell him u have ya period he all quiet.. Lolol😭😭dirty fucking trick to pull on a nigha.. Especially if y'all have good sex or he's eager for u..and even funnier, the ladies who when they have they period they either don't call u or just pretty much stay occupied doing other things till it's over then they know u again, or she may straight tell u "I have my period so I'm not coming there cuz if I wana have sex I can't" lolol .. And y'all say men is all about sex.... Lolol I love y'all man @chrisdread

TAKE ME OUT VS I WANA COME OVER

TAKE ME OUT VS I WANA COME OVER

Let's just be honest .. And this is to Women tht this Applies to .. No outside opinion needed.. But a lot of women would see a certain guy and know off the back that all she wants is sex...this doesn't make her a hoe, it doesn't make her fast... This makes her a woman.. But here's the thing ..certain women face a moment where they wana fuck but rather not be looked at wrong so they put the guy that they're targeting in the "GAME" the "you gota take me out first" kinda shit. Now if this man knows and can sense tht all you want is sex but u just want him to take u out a couple times so the approach of what you really want from him is hidden .. Then it's obvious he may not wana even put himself through the dating game .. But a woman would make him feel guilty about that ANYWAY knowing he right .. And it's funny how some men get put through this and end up having to go on a series of dates, yet once she's ready to have sex with u they never wana go out ever again.. Where they wana be and where they are content is right in a mans Bed.. So all this Bias about all men want women to do is come to the crib... Fuck outa here .. Cuz a lot of women is perfectly satisfied and happy to be there .. And to the women who this DOES NOT apply to.. If u only open up to a man for the point of getting to know him to build something, maybe a potential relationship by going on date if public setting , do ya thing, but for every man that offered to entertain u in his home it's cuz he knows dozens of women who loved the idea of a private intimate setting in the home and will have OTHER NIGGAZ TAKE THEM OUT.. But rather be with one particular man alone inside away from everything .. And that does not make her less of a woman either ... I am all for both... The take me out to get to know me better and the ..get a bottle of wine and a movie and let's stay in...  But one shouldn't knock  the next .. Cuz not every women is into dating and not every man is trying to fuck u just becuZ he entertains u well in his house or urs... Cuz trust me .. I think I met just as much women who wants to be taken out first and often as  much as the ones who rather be in the privacy of ur care and both can be classy mature career women and both can be the opposite ...perspective is the judge of this situation .. It's how u look at things, and how u conduct ur life and how u feel comfortable ..@chrisdread

It's hard to explain from the outside looking ....but I realize that it obvious why no one last now a days... You meet someone and despite how amazing or how genuine your interactions is with the person... Let 1 insignificant person say something about that person you involved with and it's down hill from there.. Rumors, we listen to them to much.. Gossip, we chat too much.. Never questioning the motive behind why someone is saying what they saying we just run with it..we dont even consider that the person that telling u stuff about the person u dealing with can either be someone that wants them and Madd u have them or someone that don't even know who that person really is yet they're talking, and we believe what people say.. You cant expect to be dealing with a gorgeous man or woman or a popular or successful person and not expect them to have a past .. But why don't we consider how happy y'all are now? Now u acting shady towards someone tht really likes u and they don't even know why or that u heard shit about them.. Smh nasty world to live in man.. @chrisdread

The most Valuable things to us in this World Are, Time and Information ..We misuse the element of Time when involving the most Meaningful things to us, things like Love, Money,Sex,Children,Friends,Family,Careers,Hobbies.. Ect ..We misuse our time and dismantle our Priorities with these things because we lack true Information ..The information as to what life is really about,who we really are,what's the real "Human Potential",what we are here for, and the information of who or what's in control .. The primary Adversary to True Information is Lust and Greed... @chrisdread

Boredom in a relationship is the one area you'd hope never to reach .. It's not always one of those things where you feel if you give it time you can fix it but trying to be fun again.. Once boredom falls into you both, the moment you realize you bored.. It's like a stain on a white shirt .. You'll always remember when it happened and it can always be seen.. Rare cases some people can spice it up before temptation breaks them apart.. But the key is..Don't get bored,ever!!!! .. @chrisdread

Be considerate of one another .. If you see he had a bad day... Make sure the rest of his night is soothing because that's a woman's deepest value,"Comfort".. What ever issue u had with him that you wanted to talk to him about, leave it for tomorrow or some other day.. Let his tension cool down before wanting him to have to deal with something that may cause an argument between you too.. Or when your girl feels like you haven't been spending a lot of substantial time together cuz your either always out or working .. The next available day you have.. Give it to her.. Get out get some air together then come home and cuddle with food and movies.. Try to leave that phone in your pocket.. Check it seldom.. Sometimes if u can give ya woman just 1 day of total concentration.. She can understand giving u a couple days to just be you.. Pay attention to each others needs and spacing.. Be kinder gentle lovers.. Watch your tone of voice.. Some people get very offended when as your lover, you talk to them like you would talk to a nigha in the street.. Lovers need to feel completely opposite from everyone else.. As they should.. @chrisdread

Even in your most Authentic Moments... Even in your most Sincere,Genuine, Raw state.. They still won't believe that's who you really are.. You can either fight all ya life trying to prove who you are.. Or you can have your life all to yourself, leaving it up to them to decide.. Either way it hurts.. But that hurt is bearable .. @chrisdread

Companionship between two people begins AftA they realize that, Yes they're friends,but there's some Hints of Intimacy and sometimes Sexual possibilities there so it's elevates above traditional friendship but doesn't go as far as a Full commitment .. Now to a lot of people this is a completely Blissful situation .. In Order for u to be this type of person, you have to have that mentality that No one truly Belongs to someone else.. But being able to have the love of a friend mixed with the chance that there's pleasure and trust involved is all you need.. Now most people live with "it's Either we together or we not anything at all " if that works for you then cool.. Just make sure you identify the person mode of how they handle these situations ..don't end up with the wrong type @chrisdread

Friends aren't supposed to be lovers .. But some friends are so inlove ... They laugh together, get pissed off together, argue, defend each other, give advice, take advice .. Yet So hard to come to a common term sexually and emotionally .. If they don't have sex then then questions raises.. "Well why aren't u attracted to me" .. if they do have sex then a ton of responsibility follows plus running the risk of loosing that friendship...truth is.. A lot of people complicate friendship in love cuz they think sex equals love and it doesn't.. Sex is not love and love is not sex.. Together it's magic.. But they work very well separately..mastering and maintaining friendship is the main focus in courtship ..everything else is supposed to be a plus .. Sex should never ever be something that  messed up a friendship.. For me it has always enhanced it..that's the most intimate part of someone ...If you don't commit to each other for whatever reason,then as a friend you have a deeper connection to that person than anyone else who hasn't made love to them .. @chrisdread

When my Daughter is home the house is filled with energy and activity .. When she's gone it's so quiet and dim .. U can hear the electricity in the fridge ... I can hear the neighbors move.. I love the energy children provide .. I love them and their lil faces and voices.. I Would love to fill my home with a couple more babies .. I just want them all around me.. Lil dread babies, inquisitive and affectionate babies .. Life is so complete with children .. Nothing I can honestly think of that feels better than being a father or an uncle or Godfather..I love how much they need you and are willing follow your judgment..so aware, so forgiving.. They're the one thing every good person needs to help them crossover into a different level of maturity .. To know a deeper realistic love where lust,greed and selfishness does not exist.. To know what it's like to willing give someone the last bit of food,and it's ok to be hungry for them ..to take a life instantly without thought if ya child is threatened .. That's the kind of love u need to know what life is really feels like.. It will forever be obscure to me how some women day out loud that they don't want kids.. Or how the men who make several of them can disregard them.. And although I know they will never know it.. But they missed the most meaningful part of our existence .. To create a life and love it, watch it Grow,to know some day hopefully far far away that you have to say goodbye and hear them say thank you and repeat all the lessons of life u gave them to teach their kids.. And now ya legacy has begun.. @chrisdread

Many many years ago early on in my life I fell for a woman with a child for the first time ... I always felt that I was fully attracted to her, I mean she was a lil older than me and a lil more experienced at the time.. One of those situations where the child's father was gone forever.. He was only about 2/3 years old at the time.. The intimacy I shared with her was owed to my relationship with her son.. I loved this kid.. Bathed him, fed him, put him to bed at night,I hugged him and kissed him everyday..i guess in retrospect I may have loved him more than I did her.. Maybe seeing all my energy and attention focused on him I pushed her out.. I always felt completely designed to be a father, and b4 my daughter I had so much exposure with my nieces and other lil babies that my mom always took in.. I know she loved me, she was proud of me and admired me because of the role I took for her son but sometimes the way she looked at me her eyes said"I know you don't belong to me" ..and I didn't.. We parted ways and she kept me from him...I guess she wanted it all as she so rightfully deserved .. Since then .. I've seen him 3 times.. He's a teenager now and he's all tall.. I didn't even know what to say so I said nothing.. Prolly won't even recognize me...but I look at him with sheer admiration .. She did a great job.. I'm happy for that experience although I lost them both .. Certain things u just don't forget.. Some Love,lives on.. And I just think to all men that has ever loved a child of another man.. It's one of the most, confusing, difficult, frustrating things u can do sometimes... But for me it's always the right thing.. @chrisdread

The moment you have sex with a New person  .. It opens up Dozens of Responsibilities and Critical choices ..The decision of who that person is, is so Crucial..We virtually have no idea what that person is capable of on the lines of positive and negative attributes because Sex Changes the atmosphere between 2 people .. So a person responding to you After sex is often, a lot different from the possibilities of who they were when you were platonic or before sex actually happened ..Critical thinking.

I think it's impressive as a man to Take a good look at her... Take a good look at how she interacts with you .. And Take a good look at how she responds to u ... And after it all you say"I Can Tell I'm Not Her Type".. Saves a lot of time because men know if they will function well with u or not very early on especially when observing the couple of men before him... @chrisdread

As the Sex Appeal Grows The Soul Appeal Slows... People are getting Sexier but No one is getting kinder ..Our External is Exploding but our Internal is Imploding ....we are without not within ...@chrisdread 

 I've never been afraid to tell a woman I love her and I've never been afraid to tell her I don't ..Funny how sometimes you say the word Love and for her it's Imprisonment.. And when you won't say it it's Freedom  

Why do some women get hurt by the same kind of guy in the same kind of way,Several different times in their lives to say I'm Done or I'm Tired of men.. Tired of men but never tired of her own Ignorance(IGNORE) ignoring the beautiful truth.. That she's a CUNT!!and she needs to wake up...how can so many of you have this happen over and over again? Why is choosing the "Obvious Good Man"So Unnatural for you..Is it a Natural Desire as women to compete with other women for the alpha male and you want to believe your love can subdue him therefor so many of you go After the same, not a dog,but a man that is only Gona do what you all allow?Same way men have 10 women but then say "I want a Wife".....yea But WHEN??He's a Cunt too. Cuz he's afraid if he picks 1,then he looses the liberty of pleasing the 9 reminding... Men love in variety... Our hearts are huge and our sexual desires are infinite...so we are all chasing our Tails, I'm not bias..and prolly no different from anyone .. @chrisdread

Most things that Hurt you makes you Feel Alive ..@chrisdread 

Black Ocean

The Success and the Independence of Black people is so important to me .. Our Adversaries have put in so much work to hide away the Information that sets us free and yet we prevail Artistically... They can never rest because somehow even though most of us are completely unaware of the Psychological Genocide,We Evolve... There's magic in us...Innate Godly Mechanics.. We are so amazing And Deep... I call us "Black Ocean" @ChrisDread 

Only advice I treasure is my own....but if I ask a question I'll value your answer ..@chrisdread

Laughter

Laughter is my true mode of life .... I love laughing and I love seeing people laugh till tears roll out their eyes.. Humor breaks tension,humor can educate ... Laughing keeps the skin tight.. Humor is noble .. Everyone loves a funny person no matter who u are.. It's charming, it's mystical and alluring ..Humor is a natural recourse ...I'm one of the silliest humans I know .. Won't come off so at first.. Cuz I'm a very serious man.. But that's only in the mode of observation and concentration ... But let my drop my guards for a second and warm up to you.. You'll see my transformation ... I need time initially... @chrisdread

 This world is not small..In fact its huge..Some individuals just take up more space than others @chrisdread

I just want an Unusual woman fit for a man who's requires you to just be Yaself .. @chrisdread  

I rather live a average life being myself over a wealthy life lying to myself and everyone else about who I really am...you'll be surprised how much people are willing to lie and be phony just and try to be something their not just to obtain this American dream..  @chrisdread 

Even through a mans eyes... Nothing is more unattractive than an insecure boyfriend... I've always tried hard not to let my woman's shine,consume me or the lust people will naturally have over her force me into jealous rages.. I know because I've delt with jealous insecure women.. It's very frustrating especially when they got you and they have nothing to worry about.. If you respect a person for who they are when you met them there should be no reason you can't handle them after you have them..respect the person you met and don't let your insecurities enable you to try to control them or lower your confidence. @chrisdread

To be a good man... All you have to do is make that decision before hand, not after you hurt her and broke her down...and if you hurt her why try so hard To get back in her life if u know your Gona do it again.. Id leave her alone.. Men know going in a situation what woman he may possibly hurt from what woman he's Gona try and be most responsible with ... Women do to lol... @chrisdread

Wile y'all laying in bed tonight .. There's nothing wrong with looking at eachother and asking "Are you happy with me" "Are you happy with our relationship".. And just incase the answer isn't unequivocally Yes... It's nothing wrong with taking the opportunity to address what YOUR REALLY FEELING .. I think it pays so much to be fair even when the truth may be a little uncomfortable. @chrisdread 

Some Men spend the first half of their life breaking hearts....and the second half trying to put them back together.... When that later stage of maturity develops so does guilt ...@chrisdread 

I'm inspired by other peoples sincerity.. Their will to express themselves fearlessly and to think as individuals.. @chrisdread 

"Sex Appeal"..it's more of an Attitude and Persona thing..

That feeling when u miss that girl!!! U see her finally.. She's walking towards you and she's shorter than you so she wraps her arms around ya neck like your favorite necklace..  Then you take ya hands and Cup her ass and squeeze it so hard and tight that u almost lift her from the ground and she tiptoes to reach ya lips and y'all kiss nearly smashing ya face in hers!!!!!! Ughhh!! I'm at the age where I want that feeling and moment atleast 3/4times a week.. I usually need the other 3/4 days to work/play and miss u all over again.. @chrisdread

Un wanted compliments

Every man knows what it's like when a woman walks by you and she's sooo stunning and has such a powerful presence, and you,without knowing her, just want to compliment her efforts sooo bad with no intention,No ulterior motive.. Just to up lift her and allow her to know you admire her..But you just can't do it.. Because you remembered the last time u attempted to give a woman a compliment and she ignored it or that particular girl just doesn't appear humble.. Your own Queens make you feel tense and uncomfortable.. If your a gentlemen of course.. You have to consider each time a man complimented her and she said thank you  but he took it a step further trying to get her number or something and she turned him down and he cursed her out for it..easy to see how certain woman turn cold After several experiences like that.. But should we expect a woman to focus a lil harder at what kind of man she should ignore vs what kind if gentlemen she should acknowledge ... Like I always say... Truth becomes abstract when perspective comes into play.. We gota be fair tho.. We are all poison and the antidote.. @chrisdread 

"Your Gorgeous"... A term that men say to women that doesn't seem as meaningful as it should anymore.. Just appears a woman only seems responsive to it only if it comes from a man she's chasing... They say Chivalry has died... I'm starting to see that not completely true.. Just woman response to it is a lot different now vs Then.. And men seem to be less inspired to so.. Only a special kind of man and woman lives old fashion in modern times.. Sometimes I have to bite my tongue and think about who I compliment before I do when a sincere compliment should be shown the gratitude it deserves vs a woman thinking men do it with shallow meaning.. Or when some women don't even respond at all.. @but hey, there's always 2 perspectives right.. @chrisdread 

Optimism

Optimism is not just an attitude you acquire wile sitting down and things suddenly get better all on it's own  .. Allow the optimism to generate a work ethic that is relentless, pushing you to do things you normally wouldn't do.. Calculated risk we take to accomplish everything without fear ..@chrisdread

Thank God I grew up in a house where every one hugged and kissed each other constantly.. That's the healthiest way to raise ya kids.. You ever knew someone ya entire life and in being around them wile they were with their family, you could hardly remember them kissing and hugging eachother ??? Different kind of person ..@chrisdread 

Laughter!

Love peace and serenity

Absence teaches the substances of Presence...being apart surely generates this anxiety and often sorrow...but it makes the height of pleasure so much more intense when u come Together...Absence should never be malicious or cruel or done with lies and anger...it should associate with the dedication of goals that improve ur lifestyle of the present and future and should also include ur Leisure, ur personal time.. That everyone needs... To filter and evaluate themselves and the things we experience..   

I wana love a woman traditionally, unconditionally ... But the conditions in me allowed me to see the fictitious notion of u and me...

The shit is... People always talk about "oh I don't judge people" and " I hate judgmental people" when the truth is EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON EARTH IS EXTREMELY JUDGMENTAL.. The only difference is do u express it out loud ... Because we judge everything in our private mind...but the people who mainly over react about someone's opinion or being judged by someone is people who are Ashamed of what they do or people who love to do fucked up or nasty shit and just don't want no one to tell them about they self.. And I get it,fine u wana live ya life doing whatever u want and for no one to Check u on it but don't go around saying u hate judgmental people as if u don't form opinions of ur own towards others .. People who hate judgmental people is some of the most judgmental humans on earth .. Such hypocrisy.. And is the most misunderstood term ever.. I'm not saying that people on earth can't be asshole and over analyze and over critique things for no reason but know the difference when someone is misjudging u from when people judge u based off the fact that u actually doing nonsense with ya self and u need to be told about it.. For instance .. If u have a homegirl that lacked ambition but u knew she was smart and talented but she only fucked with niggaz that have money and love to ride in man car and making sure niggaz took her on trips bought her nice shoes Ect .. If u came to her and told her you notice she fucking men that's not even her taste just so she can have fancy shit and don't wana work for it.. I bet u any amount of money she Gona say "why u judging me" why?? Cuz ur a Hoe!! Ya name is all ova the place and u fcking ugly niggaz with nice cars just so u can feel like u living !!!!shit even men Do this .. People that care about u aren't always Gona turn they back or mind they business if u have value to them ..so knock it off with the phony shit let's keep it real ! @chrisdread

 Make sure you know the Difference Between Procrastination and The "Timing" Of Your Dreams. What is meant to be will draw near all on it's own.. Everything else you want is what u have to physically get up and conquer ..@chrisdread  

"Make sure you out Grow Promiscuity before you call yourself someone's Husband Or Wife" @chrisdread

When u mix Your Lover with Business u learn very fast what's more important to them.... Love or Business ... Smh @chrisdread 

Poem entry

"The simplicity of the sky has always endeared me, Far beyond in comparison of the one my heart belongs to...Riddled with complexity, my nerves fluster trying to communicate my emotions... I love the sound of the flowing stream... My lover is a crashing waterfall.. My touch, a breeze, my lovers touch knocks me to the ground...harder to breath now as love draws near... Loving in fear." @chrisdread 

You have 1 life and some people feel entitled to it all... So let's just say u give them half..... Now the other half that's not theirs is occupied by Family,Friends,Hobbies,Education, Careers,Dreams and Turmoils ... So how is it that people can't identify that You've given them an ENTIRE HALF just for them And now you have to bunch up all of these major factors in your life in one Column,then they have the nerve to give off the energy like you've been Selfish towards them!!!...Not to mention you forgot to make a 3rd chamber for ya self, that time away from everything. Your not owed that suddenly?Then people say things like "when someone's important to you, you'll  make that time ..  Now I'm ambiguous about statements like that..here's the thing.. Showing someone you care about them is not the same as bestowing a particular amount of meaning and time to them.. Then again pay attention to what kind of message your sending that person when you show them you care... Keep in mind .. Just cuz someone doesn't appear to be giving u a lot of their time doesn't mean your meaningless it can just mean that other things are more critical at the moment and it needs extra care.. I'm a believer of Raw communication .. It's important to say the things a person needs to hear in order for them to protect themselves even when it hurts...but even the best communication gets ignored cuz a person is so focused on having you that they only hear what they wana hear ...that's when ya whole "kept it real moment"disappeared... We have to be more responsible with each other the same way we need to be more considerate... Consider the person you've met and the other side of their life and what it entails... Also,be responsible in observing the intent of the person that wants to love you,how much your starting to mean to them and how you can incorporate them into your life in a more balanced manner,making sure not to send mixed signals ......."We are babies, strengthening our legs,trying to walk" @chrisdread 

I've succeeded and I've failed .... It's very easy to tell which Taught me more,which made me stronger.. @chrisdread  

It's funny how people treat you the way that they do based off of some one else's interpretation of you... Not ever once thinking that how that person described you is based off of their Personal experience which exist because of completely different or unknown factors completely separate from the other person... If they don't know you then how could they "know" you... @chrisdread

As women if u don't respect that the majority of men Love from a sexual stand point early on and your always trying NOT to confront his sexual interest.. Then your Gona be running for a long time ..don't be intimidated by it or assume just becuZ he puts his sexuality on front street that this is all he's interested in.. Same way if a woman puts her sexuality on front street don't assume she's easy or promiscuous..because if u treasure sex and your comfortable with it,it will come up early on depending how attracted u are to someone.. I hear a lot of women complained a man talked about sex during the first convo .. But u never ever hear men complain about being annoyed or turned off by women mentioning sex early on.. This is an obvious sign that men enjoy a woman talking about her sexuality not in a trashy way but in a mature honest raw form... But now let's say a man can't seem to talk about anything else besides sex or hinting that that's all he wants.. Only then should u suspect foul play.. But if he not only can talk on things sexually as well as all intellectual areas then there should be no awkward feeling or threat  towards sexual topics .. It's a major part of why anyone is interested in someone .. @chrisdread

"With all the women in this world,she never understood why, her attention is all he wanted... He would always Say to me"Why won't she even look my way,why does she pretend I'm not there" I would tell Him "maybe she's not in a state of clear vision" it didn't bring him much comfort at all... He would explain how much of a gentlemen he is to her and how none of his gestures towards her seem compelling...I told him to remain genuine, if you just remain true to yourself usually things make sense.... Nearly wanting to give up he thought to do the most practical thing a man can do...so in one last kind act of admiration, he simply approaches her with a Rose... She breaks down into tears..... He asked,"Miss why are you crying, I'm just trying to show that I like you".... She says" I've noticed, I've been avoiding you cuz I think u deserve a woman with less of broken heart"Stunned by her remark he says, "all I want then, is a chance to fix it" His name was Hope and her name was Misery. @chrisdread

For every Art Form and Artist,there are Copy Cats ....Don't let the Copy Cat become more successful than the Artist. And never let the Copy Cat be remember for art they the didn't create .. @chrisDread

The only way we can ever obtain world peace is if the Most Wealthy of us desire to maintain it...which they only make up under 5% of the worlds population ... So my concerns is how? How can we even begin to touch their source of compassion... Especially if it means to be MOST Wealthy that means to have a Great Deal of information.....Information that was taken and hidden from us in order for them to be in Control.. World peace would almost mean them having to give up much of their fortune,riches and land.. And even some of their business so that every one can have enough.. And although this is the way it should have been, I just don't see them doing that.. And then there's that baffling question of the Wealthy possibly feeling that the world would be in a better state had it been less populated... Maybe that's why they create wars or create ghettos or put, not only the wrong information, but the useless kind in our children's school books... Cuz all of that will kill you...nevertheless this is greed...one of the most deadly components of a human. @chrisdread 

All we really need is for our young men to see the older men Love women For-real....See them show true affection,be attentive and most important, remain in the home of their wife and kid ...and our younger women can use a lil positive influence by seeing the older women simply adore and uplift her man when he's trying his best ... And for both to practice being faithful to each other...and then we'll be ok... @chrisdread

"A Bad Bitch" Such a relative term..so many variations depending on who's looking.. Is it her natural looks or made up looks, is it her body and face or just body or just face... Is it her career despite her looks, is it her Career combined with her looks, is it the quality of her clothes and heels? Or how expensive her "unbaweable" weave is? Is it her car or the quality of her home ..........Or does the quality of a "Bad Bitch have a direct relationship with the quality of the person who labeled her that ?...  Now to me, there it is right there..let's think.. Would it not make her a bad bitch if she looked really really good but she was broke? Let's just say she had ambition but got fired from her job and was having a rough time.... Would u consider her "Bad" then? Depends on who's judging ... What if she was very unattractive but had money out her ass and could buy anything she wanted except sex appeal.... Would she be "bad" then?? Depends on who's judging...so what makes a bad bitch ligit? I think The imagination of who's judging...... The only "bad bitch"to me are the ones who lives honest,to their fullest capacity..a woman who has figured out her passion and let's nothing stand in her way of obtaining it.. And one who demands fair treatment from everyone never Allowing herself to be hurt anymore than she has to just because this world named her "woman" rather than simply Human. @chrisdread

Part of being a man is knowing that you can't have sex with every girl that wants you... You gota know who you can live without having ..not all sexual doors you open,are easy to close...you gota recognize that not every woman that wants to have sex with you,just wanted sex,but uses sex to open those doors to you...you also don't wana over saturate Yaself sexually too early as a man and destroy the Enchantment of intimacy... It becomes very hard to please the woman you love after endless nights of Erotic exchanges...your body can handle but so much naturally b4 your mind takes over..there's an area where sexual desires are taken over by"reason"..also at the peak of maturity you realize never having sex with certain women keeps their appeal so high that u find a new appreciation for them and a great deal of self respect for Yaself.. Very powerful feeling.. Then some women your ok with just having a nice long meaningful kiss giving u a glimmer of the potential... Always appreciating what could have been... @chrisdread

I love to speak to someone who's just as excited to speak to me as I am them... And if their more excited than me I hope to get there.. I love to spend time with someone who's just excited in seeing me as I am them.. And if their more excited than me, I hope to get there...the older you get you have a better evaluation of #Effort.. Such a underestimated term...the effort of time you put into people has to be carefully scrutinized because the effort you put in represents their value and vice versa ..Curving has become so popular amongst us leaving no one really sensing their value.. I prefer to Evaluate mines and move accordingly ... Nobody has the time to waste it all @chrisdread

To all mothers with sons: "as a son there's so much things u keep from ur mom .., u don't want her to worry about u knowing she'll worry anyway... Crazy world for a young black man.. She knew that b4 you were even born..as a kid I've witnessed a lot of horrible things b4 the age of 6... With everything we still have so much endearment towards the world ..  But one of the things that took the Enchantment out of life was being up close and personal with the first murder I witnessed .. I knew him well he owned the store in my neighborhood .. Shot right in front of me.. I was 12 ..Nothing like the movies.. Not all this dramatic blood.. It was a lot scarier.. True pain..broad day light..there's so much u can say when ur clenching on to life but I remember clearly him asking for water.. He was so thirsty .. When my mom came home, I didn't want her to know or be worried but I couldn't hide it, it was cops everywhere .. They actually labeled me a material witness even though I didn't get to see the guys who did it.. Mug shots and days and hours of watching surveillance footage .. Situations like this a mother  hates for her son To go through .. But keep in mind.. This is nothing .. 85% of the things ya son will go thorough you'll never really know about it for ur own protection,mentally especially .. This is not to build a disconnect but too keep then Enchantment of the within ur mom.. The role reverses.. All the things they try to keep you from is what we try to keep from them years later..ladies if ur raising ur son alone, know this and respect it.. He is a man without a man.. He has to learn to world from his own eyes.. As a woman u can give him so much but u can't give him his manhood ..  His instincts has to be sharpened in the world.. Keep the friendship strong .. Allow him to look at u as an asset not a burden .. Give him a lil space trusting that he will always look to u for love and comfort.. There isn't much else u can do.. He will take care of u and protect u with his life ... BecuZ he is also your man .. But just know having a son.. You may never fully know the real him.. @chrisdread

For most artist, whether u can draw,write,sing,play an instrument Ect ..... Your best work comes from extreme happiness or extreme pain.. Anything in the middle produces ordinary results .. So as an artist , capitalize on the best and worst moments to produce work.. @chrisdread

It's not always about going all the way ...sometimes it's nice to know that they just want you like crazy...get it wet, make it throb...and just be there together.. At this stage of my life it's one of those times where I feel extremely alive... Having something to look forward too keeps u loping forward... Then when it's right... For you both... Yo let it in.. #goodtimes @chrisdread

For a man it's a great feeling when one of ya Ex lovers is proud of you and happy she got that chance,that time with you... But a man with integrity can't Live knowing a woman regrets him, and is ashamed that she was involved with him.. That kills a man.  @chrisdread 

I've never once asked to be understood.. And I never will.. And since I think understanding Is the equal to love... That means I'll never ask someone to love me.. If u love me all on ya own tht means u somewhat understand me.. @chrisdread

Yearning that deeper relationship, that deeper connection with someone.... I really am!! But it is important to evaluate if u have the time and the space to support that connection.. Timing is so important .. Im a student of time and I'm at it's will.. I trust it and I know it has done well for my by treating it with such value.. All the efficient and sufficient love I have to give has a destination and a designation...so I pace myself and relax.. Enjoying every forward motion..  @chrisdread

It's important to Establish the courage to Deliver Painful Truth, and Equally important, is the Courage to Accept the truth as well... But As the Deliverer, be cautious as to how you  relay your message, and if your accepting, Be cautious as to How you respond..  @chrisdread