New Year's Eve gets me very very very emotional ..  I literally wana text the thousand something people in my phone and tell each person how much I love them .. But I know that's not even realistic .  So much people I wana say "I love you" to .. But would the feeling be the same in return .... So much people I wana hug, so much people I wana tell "I'm so proud of you" soo much people I wish I could hug again due to their passing on .  So much of my friends I lost  to the Gun.. So much of my homegirls, my young gorgeous black queens I lost to cancer..  So much funerals I missed that I regret missing .. So much sorries .. So much thank you's .. So much I miss you's.. So much I shoulda, Coulda's.. So much growth yet so so much pain.. Losing my own offspring and the devastation that I can never fully talk about.. So much of me, so much of you, so much of us... So many of you reached out to me and came to me with all your wonders , all your pain all your confusion.. I met some amazing people.. Who trusted in me, who looked in me and said "hey I believe in you and what you have to offer" " can we talk , can we build" and some of you expressed some of the most deepest darkest moments of your life with me and asked me to give you my insight, and I just wana thank you from the bottom of my heart for seeing that in me and believing I'm a man that can really "feel" .  You allow me to be human, to embody the true sense of love and what it is to love and honor my fellow man.. You make me so much smarter by teaching me as well .  .. I've met some amazing souls .. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart ... 

                     You know... At the stroke of midnight, the only thing really changing is the Callender .. The same sun will rise, so will the same moon .. The same heart beats within your chest .. You have all you need in this very moment.. Not the illusion of some NYE resolution .. Set your sight on that one thing you wana master and give it all you got .. Follow the dreams you had as a child, for those are the truest kind. If your on a job that you hate, ask yaself why am I here??? Question that .. Look at the world around us.. It's getting more and more complicated and we have no clue as to what will happen the next 10 mins.. Go for what you know is your true passion .. If you don't want your EX to be your Ex anymore because you love them and miss them Tell them !!! Tell them with no fear of rejection .. If you miss your best friend but that stupid fight caused a separation, call them! RIGHT AWAY!! There's is no time to waste .. Be strong family .. And alway think "Love" first .. Love is the best religion.. Love is the most absolute fantastic aspect of life .. The Mystics involved in it is far more complexed than we can comprehend but we have to spend time with it to interpret love and then we will be better able to translate it.. This is a wonderful world filled with bad people .. The good will never exist without the bad We have to learn how to love it all.. Let it teach us all.  Be well family and have a great start on the  Callender ..And to personally address my black family..  Listen guys, we are facing an opposition so evil and so destructive, that to see us never really figuring out how to love one another and band together to improve our conditions of life, to improve our future for our children is really draining .. I hope you all can see how far we have come separated by the bondage of slavery and the post traumatic syndrome we suffer from so imagine if we were together in peace, love and harmony . I want you to really think about that .. We have to choose a fight to be apart of and we need to become one in that aspect.. Everyone can't be for self .. We must learn that together we form a wall so high nothing can leap above us.. Nothing ever!  #muchLove #chrisdread

I fell in love many days.. I'm fulfilled emotionally and still learning so much more .. Just want to embrace the innocence of love and enjoy it in my own time ..  Sadly we live in a time where some people still have the need to be in a relationship yet have lost the moral content behind maintaining a healthy one.. And my mindset is just not with that ..  This next relationship has to be real i don't care if I reach 60 until it happens.. If it's not the real deal I mind as well stay my ass single, cuz idk about y'all .. But there's many times I enjoy love much more being single than I do in "certain  relationships" ..We all express love differently, we Translate it differently so we experience it differently   .. Some people get into relationships and only focus on the boundaries of the commitment and how much their lover steps out side it..Then some people lean towards Solely the Love aspect and just have a more free flowing momentum. Listen..... The things people create drama out of in their relationships are Ridiculous!! A week later people be sitting there saying Damn" we fought over you putting the Spoons where the Fork goes in the draw" like some dumb shit like that..... YO!! That's not normal. Not to me. You pick a fight with me bout some damn forks that means your a problematic asshole 🙄.. Life can be soooo good if we just learn to negate those kinds of useless quarrels  .. Some people just can't handle that !! And some people think that's love ..  Those oppositions should never blend .. So I know myself . A healthy relationship is 2 individual people thinking and moving as one, in unison ... Not the opposite .. And of course arguments are not uncommon .. That's apart of being alive. But it has to be some consciousness drawn towards being responsible enough to know when to utilize an argument and when it's just damaging and pointless .. You have to sharpen that ability to recognize when it's happening, wile its happening and train yaself away from it..  People walking around with pride saying stuff like " oh I know I can be a bitch or I know I can be stubborn or I know I can be dismissive or I know I can be a lil crazy at times but I can't help it that's just me!!" NO!!! You can help it, if you know it's bad then change it... Because if you REALLY love a person and if u knew  any of those factors listed was causing more harm than good then you would get rid of it right away end of story .. But in this society, we don't love freely... We love under terms and conditions.. "Even with little arrogant stuff like "oh well this is who I was before you met me and this is what you have to deal with, I've always been this way" ... Well then you haven't grasped the concept of love.. To love is to nearly always conform..Not abusing yourself for the pleasure of your lover but, to conform organically .#chrisdread 

5 crucial areas to pay attention to:

Professional Stability

Good Health

Exciting Love Life

Time Management

Healthy OffSpring #chrisdread

Bless the man that found his trade and can use it to not only support him financially .. But it gives him purpose ..Something every man Longs for.. It's great if he find this before he meets his Lover.. It may give him a more well rounded circumstance ...  But many men don't find that until their lover brings it out of him..  Ladies your so crucial .. Remember, No matter what a man owns, His woman will always maintain and manage it.. His home, his business his heart, his self confidence.. You get the key to it all.. #chrisdread

The superficial woman only works for the superficial man .. A male under a superficial mindset more than likely won't be Sufficient at Romance, Intimacy, Compromise, Affection, Attentiveness, Compassion, Spontaneous, all because he can "Purchase happiness.. Everything a Superficial woman likes... Until she looks at her nice Bag, her nice car her huge ring, and realizes that her Heart is empty and that same man probably buying gifts for other woman too, cuz u know them other women selling they bodies just like u did .. And when he's tired of paying for u he WILL throw you to the side for something younger sexier and more gullible than you were, cuz after you start to complain about the lack of love you receive  because your maturing and you realize the size of the ring was nothing in comparison to the size of your heart .. then and only then will you be mature enough to accept true love for the right person ... #chrisdread 

You see, you can work so hard to get a woman's number .. Approach her with caution, be polite as u can, walk on egg shells, or even approach her with the apprehension knowing that she may not show you the same interest or enthusiasm as you have for her... God only knows she doesn't think your sincere .. She prolly thinks your trying to fuck her ...She prolly heard about you last year, or last week.. You find yourself changing your words for her, playing it really safe hoping you don't say 1 thing to turn her off, cuz it only takes that one wrong sentence ..And all you keep saying is damn "if she only knew" that with me she's the safest .. But how can she ever know ? Until she takes that risk, and say, you know what, here you go... To us it's almost like hearing her say" you have passed stage one, now on to stage two" ... And stage 2 seems like she's saying without saying, "go on... Impress me, show me what you got, show me what you can do that then other niggaz didn't" 

             Now after all this, and now you got the number your like... How am I supposed to be proud of this? How am I supposed to feel enthusiastic now, about a woman that really made it such a tacky experience trying to get to know her just based off her attitude about the whole thing... I have your number now, a number that a man sometimes feels he needs, but now it's like do I even want it, what will I do with it... What will she do with mine..  And then you think,.. Nothing... #chrisdread

The worse feeling is when you feel you have to Over-Explain yourself or Prove something that is, or should be self explanatory ..But when your care about someone enough or think someone is well worth it... You better do it. When you truly love someone you exhausts all possibilities before quitting .. #chrisdread 

"I remember him telling of one particular lady he loved very deeply... And it wasn't no fake love, I mean, this guy really loved this girl ... We all hung out once. She was gorgeous, I mean this long soft hair, this infectious smile, she had everything, gorgeous body, all the physical ingridents a man loved. What I admired about this guy was, he never seem to care about any of it... He used to say "when you truly love a woman, those external things is what makes you notice her... But it's everything else that will make you wana keep her" He told me it was the obscure things he loved... The sound of her voice when she spoke, the way she always covered her mouth with her left hand when she laghed cuz she had a chipped tooth. The way she slept on her hands. I can truly say the way he loved her gave me different feelings on the way I saw love .. I didn't know it was so profound ..,I mean this was his best friend you know. I wanted that so much for myself and couldn't see that until I was exposed to someone that reflected me. It so important to see it in real life.. How else will we apply the idea to real life if we simply don't know it exist .. He showed me friendship and love is 2 of the same .. #chrisdread 

Sometimes we have people that wants to meet us and spend time with us and by not feeling the same way or at least telling them we don't feel the same way, it creates a tension that's totally unnecessary .. It creates a liar in the person making excuses completely unnecessary to the task..People are so afraid to just say No! Or hey your not really my type or this is really a bad time .. Half the time when Jill  is trying to meet Jack, Jack is busy focusing on Jessica.. But Jack will pull Jill up some Hill leading her no where all because he couldn't tell her his mind was on someone else ..  Same Way Jack can be chasing Jill but Jill wants Jeff but is allowing Jack to feel there's a chance when there's not.. She just can't say the words .  That decision right there will build resentment .. Then Jill will tell everybody Jack is doing to much and he's too persistent, when she could have told him the Truth A lot sooner.. Or sometime we caught up in work and our lives and still string people along .. Something we all guilty doing a couple times in our lives .. We have to be brutally honest keeping the integrity high.. That atleast will make them respect you rather than resenting you from not being honest.. #chrisdread 

Never underestimate the power of a Slow Dance.. Move the living room table out the way .. Play some Isley Brothers .. Hold ya girl and dance with her and say stuff in her ear u never said .. Make her text her friends tomorrow telling them how nice her night was..And how surprised she was at what you did. The more special the girl, you'd be surprise the simple things she thinks are so grand and titanic .. The woman that wants nothing but your love appreciates all your ideas......

          Man... Love is so important, especially right now. Use it right. #chrisdread 

Contrary to popular belief,  a lot of men can't execute every sexual experience. Sometimes something is screaming out so loud in your head "Na Bro not this one" And that totally affects your body and the stimulus it takes to execute ... So this thing where men are just horndogs and will fuck anything with a vagina that moves is Ridiculous. Biologically it takes more desire for us to have sex than women.. What gives an erection and what holds an erection is blood filling our penis but that blood has to be sent there for a reason .. That reason needs to be a good one. A woman can have sex when she's Unsure. Won't feel the same but she can lay there till it's over.. If a man is unsure or he doesn't want to have sex he won't be able to maintain an erection .. This is very important to understand. 

      They'll talk about how much sex you've had and how much women you've been with and it can either make u a God to some or a complete disgust.. But no one will ever ever ever talk about how many women you've turned down or walked away from.. And to me that's wayyyyy more fascinating. #chrisdread

Anytime you tell Em " I Love You" but they say "well i don't feel like you do" or they say" Well you don't show it" often times that means "Romance" is absent. Romance is the language and the action of love..Romance is the Quality of Love. When your Loving your lover you have to show Romance, especially when dealing with a Woman. Men need and love Romance but receiving it is not our essential need. As a man our need is to Be Romantic and  Express Romance. But Women need Romance to be included in love because it's your love she's "Sensing" but she's actually "Experiencing" the Romance behind your love, and that's what completes her. But as both men and women we must be considerate of how we express our Love. Because remember, if we're just saying it, then that's makes love just a word. How are you gona show it. #chrisdread 

He said to her "while you're here let me be in love with you,even if you don't feel the same it's OK please just don't interrupt my feelings"

One thing I hear a lot is people saying is "you shouldn't have to change who you are for someone you love, or don't lose yourself for some own else" .. But how conflicting is that ???And your not loosing yaself if you are conscious that you need to make adjustments for someone you  love .. Life is about change .. We are constantly changing, and woman are amazing at changing for men.. Men sadly aren't .. Women can find a man and stick with him for let's say 3 years.. If she really loves him she will form his habits over time .. March to his beat.. Honor him .. Now Let's say they break up ..  She will find another man and repeat the same steps.. That's what a devoted woman does.. #chrisdread

Make them feel bad for saying what they say..  They don't know you but they'll say it anyway .. When they can't have you, when they can't be you, when they can't gain your attention, or when you get the love they want, that's when they usually throw shade .. Never let them take the warmth of the sun ..  Be steadfast in character and truth .. Nothing else matters after truth . #chrisdread 

It takes a great Deal of effort to find and secure your "Life Partner" ... But to find your "Soul Mate", you'll need nothing  but to dream.. 2 different functions, 2 different purposes ... Your SoulMate, you may have to say goodbye to one day... Shit, one day you may want to say goodbye.. But only after the lesson.. You see they take you places you've never been, made you feel things you've never felt..They may even redefine the whole idea of love.. They may break your heart in the process, hey may show you how to put it all together again .. They may show you how to be an aggressive professional .. They may help you become a better mother or father, a better son or daughter, a better brother or sister..They may show you that sex is not just this thing that we do for fun or pleasure, but it's something where you can find your soul and theirs ... This Soulmate is preparing you for this life partner..  Preparing, molding you for this life ahead .. For the road that curves left to right.... Find your ground. Because staying grounded is what you and your life partner will need to raise the kids, to keep the home functioning. Set up their education so that they may set up their own children .. You are your life partner is the Legacy.. Your soul mate may be all the ingredients ..  #chrisdread