Don't waste too much time on old lovers and people you fell out with, doing everything u can to keep the lines of communication open wile their doing everything to close them ... Pay attention to the people that's been there and the people who's trying to get to know u ... Trust me I'm a firm believer in fighting for what you love but sometimes there's a limit ..you have to recognize when certain people have no intentions on being the same with u like they once was.. People evolve and you have to see that for what it is ... @chrisdread 

Experiences Gives you knowledge.... How you  Articulate those Experiences makes you Intellectual...,How you live your life based on the lessons you learned from your experiences and how well you can describe the Lessons you've learned Expresses Wisdom ..., Now who you select to share all of this with allows you to Give the most meaningful Information ... Knowledge/Intellect/Wisdom/Information @chrisdread 

I send all the sincerest well wishes to all the Real relationships and couples trying to navigate through society privately with love and compassion for eachother.. A society where nearly everyone and everything in it is fake.... A society set on materialism and not love...A place where taking a good picture of her hand on his hand in the car is more important than them 2 having a real conversation about eachother ...to all of u who are in those relationships that is filled with truth and trust, you set Precedent for all who may observe .. You maybe the only example of the possibility of devotion for miles .., hold tight and hang in there ..because your human as well ..  You may fight you may argue but the difference in you guys are, y'all are really trying to stay together for life ...and not just for the moment .. Not just cuz y'all look good in pics together .. But because y'all have a life plan and through it all it involves the both of you till your last days ....God Bless you and I wish you well..@chrisdread 

There's a system of doubt in what Black Man can achieve ... If we ever band together, the world would fall to it's knees...A Race of Kings forgotten from the past, the strength in our blood that made us outlast...the nightmare of being stolen,beaten,left bleeding... Grabbing your wife away from your grip wile she's pleading.... They make her strip.... They rape her in front of you to damage your soul... Then when you become a ragefull  beast ,they Lable the black man cold... Why is it that they hate us so much...So much  that they made us hate ourselves .... Made us hate eachother ..  My own brother.. @chrisdread 

Sit back for a Second .. Think about the Sweetest Person you ever Dated ...now ask yourself, why were they Different ...now if that person isn't the one your with .. Take those differences, not only apply it to yourself .. But try to associate it with what your looking for next .. Because if your weren't focused enough to hold on to the sweetest person you ever dated.., Then They deserved to be remember and gain the recognition of At least  teaching you better.. @chrisdread 

Never judge or assume someone's character when their chasing you ... You judge it after you finally let them catch you... Because who that person was becomes AftA they have you, that's the real them ..Not that Super Hero you thought they was in the beginning ...@chrisdread

Success is weird ... It's sort of evasive yet it resides right under your nose ..sometimes everything can't always be calculated, can't always be priciest .. "Sometimes success begins In a Fear and ends in Risk" a risk in the dark that transforms into light ..In all honesty not every one deserves success that is successful .. Success is not owned by the Good.. It's owned by the Fearless.. And Fear is the mother of all fuck ups..@chrisdread

Movie night

It's something bout that moment when a woman ask to come over just to watch a movie ... Lol ha.. Every gentlemen has 2 theories about this .... His first Agenda is to actually watch the movie.. You know.. "Take her word for it" lol..😏.. So he might pick a scary movie.. That's that"she might wana get close to me when she get scared" tactic..or he may pick a chick flick.. That's the "she may get all mushy and sentimental with me"tactic ... Or he may put on a comedy .. Cuz face it, Chicks love to laugh and laughter release oxytocin"the Joy/love hormone" or that action movie, she may like the excitement, the adrenaline may turn that ass on... But realistically most people can relate that "Not even 15 mins into the movie, when a woman willingly wants to come over and watch a movie and y'all really attracted to eachother .......... Her hand is on ya toti before the intro music is over .... Now that thigh is across ya body so you know u gota palm that ass now .(here we go) you squeezing it now... You done kissed her on her neck(awwww shit!!!).. Out comes the titties..... 45 mins later y'all like " yo, start the movie over we missed the whole movie ... Lolol.. She cute, playing dumb like " I was trying to watch the movie but u started with me... Then she like"can you get some juice please.. Oh and get me some snacks.. Oh and roll up..😏 @chrisdread

Guy and girl has a debate about sex.. The guys says "Sex is probably the most important thing in a relationship between man and woman ...the Girl totally disagrees..she says ... "Sex isn't the most important thing To everyone, I rather a Guy that can provide for me and the kids and if the sex ain't good oh well atleast I got a great provider....the guy had a Huge problem with this Lie.. He says "that's ridiculous, u mean to tell me if the sex isn't good and there's no way to improve it then you'll either stay or be faithful ?? The girl says "well if he's taking care of me yes!" (Another lie he thought)..So the guy says "well what happened to taking care of Yaself and feeling alive" she said "don't worry bout that just know if I'm taken cared of I'm happy with that" 😒..he says to her"yo stop lying, sex is everything in a relationship" the girl say "maybe to you but not me" he said "oh really?? So sex isn't everything ???" She say to him, "no it's not" sooo frustrated, the guy takes a deep breath and says .. "You know how I know sex is everything.... If that same guy that can't please u fucks some other woman and u found out,would it break ya heart??" She goes "well of course it would" he smirks 😏 and says "because Sex is Everything" @chrisdread

"She has to walk several blocks home.. Can't help the body her mama gave her, she's bad.... Every day she'd walk by,all the Fellaz on the block would hound her .. The thing about a woman who's heart belongs to a great man is how she conducts herself when he's not around ..  No matter how handsome or flashy a guy was she never made eye contact with anyone.. Or she would quickly pull out her phone and pretend to talk .. Even the men with the most manners approached her and complimented her she would give a subtle thank u and maybe just maybe a smile.. But To a man on a hunt, a subtle smile is like an open window ..  Hers was closed so she was very cautious .. Some men even called her a bitch or stuck up Hoe, I've heard them ... Me, I never say anything 

To her .. Funny she would always acknowledge me.. Like she appreciated my silence... She sometimes nods her head like she's saying hi to me ... And I'd nod back... Funny thing was, I'm playing ball in the park one day and the guy playing against me said "time out"... He walks towards the entrance of the gate where we seen him walking to this same girl ...this gorgeous woman that no man can seem to even slightly impress wraps her arms around this sweaty man and says" hey baby I missed u all day.. He said "I miss you too babe we Gona go in 5 mins let me just finish this game" he runs back ova to us and says"Fellaz let's go I gota leave just now" so as we started the game again, {remember he's guarding me so I'm right next to him.}.. We kinda end up near where she was standing and he simply a says to her.."babe you look so gorgeous today" the next 10-15 mins or so I watched this women smile from ear to ear AftA he said that .. Like he made her feel like a little girl .. Then it dawned on me.. Everyday of her life a million men can compliment her but the only one that makes her feel different, makes her feel alive is the compliment from the man she loves.. Like she reserves all joy of the thousands of compliments she gets all day just to get that one from him and she can let out her happiness ..... Automatically this made me more so admire him .. True lessons in urban streets .. True King and Queen actions amongst average citizens .. I have the eyes to see that. @chrisdread {fiction}

One of the most fascinating things 2 people who loved each other can do ... Is Break up, go on with life, becoming more and more Confident, Smarter, Stronger, becoming Sexier and greater Professionals and business men/women, having to constantly Cross paths and genuinely be impressed and adorned by each other's  progress and pretending that your not, and pretending that y'all are not perfect for each other because your stuck on this principal that strong people don't move backwards .. But who ever said love has any particular direction ...The heart is just trying to find it's way Back to the basics.. Back to whats most familiar, and we complicate that with outside principals that's not always our own.. Why claim you want love when sometimes you know the person in ya life now is a faulty substitute of what your heart is trying to gain back .. The more we collide with the truth,the more we destroy the Enchantment of ever really living happy with someone else..now if the new person in your life is truly a love match then that's great, but enrich the experience with everything you learned from the past,good and bad always staying true to who you are and what form of lover you really need, not what society sets you up with  @chrisdread

This post is in response to a lot of woman that found it hard to accept my last blog stating "A MAN CAN NOT UN-LOVE A WOMAN WHO HE TRULY LOVED

Again..key phrase "true love" if a man loves a woman for one thing "today's and tomorrow" then he didn't TRULY LOVE HER.. Please, no bitter black woman ideals necessary .. Y'all are strong, independent and crave sex and materialism more than ever.. So it's no need to Go against a mans  principal of love as if we don't have any... Its a new day.. We are not in need of every fraction of our psychological potential to be diluted by personal experience Gona bitter, made general towards every man ... And I don't agree .. Women are geared to love all their lives cuz they're less men who are willing to commit and actually be a good provider, nurture and a pleasure tool to his mate plus the competition is a lot higher for her cuz of the ratio of women being so hi .. So she's fighting to find love everyday and is more willing To put her all into a relationship, believing that she loves a man even if she knows she doesn't know him as well as she could .. And if he hurts her she's even willing to love the same kind of a man over and over again finding the same results .. That's actually the true definition of insanity .. Where as a man has an abundance of choices to good women willing to commit and be good to her man and a good mother to their kids .. And we all know it's human that when things are in abundance we take them for granted until u mature to an area where u can appreciate all things as unique blessings, no matter the number of them available  .. A man will play the field developing his sexual characteristic, developing his charisma, developing his professionalism that's required to make a woman secure based on his provisions ... So to get that man to TRULY LOVE.. Bet and believe it not often and it takes a lot more to convince him of his hearts worth .. So wile men get titles like dog or womanizer .. What you are  observing is his constant appetite to love without ever reaching it cuz he is stuck on the fact that he has options and not focusing on quality and seizing the moment with quality ... Enabling him to do the same thing over and over gaining the same results .. He is also insane and TRULY heartbroken as well..  

I've never been the religious type..I'm more spiritual and cultural type of individual.. I feel less restricted.. But the  "Tea Drinking" culture is one I've always felt connected to .. So much honor in simply and drinking  and they way the Japanese serve tea.. It's very intimate and romantic... So much enchantment in the way a person serves you.. "One of the most endearing gestures is someone offering to drink tea with me" if anyone knows me really well, they see me drink tea all the time.. I drink tea on average 3 times a day ..warm or cold .. But I really wish I was in a habitat that practiced these customs.. Sometimes where u are is not where u belong .. So you have to improvise.. Maybe the woman I end up with can either feel the same about tea or adapt to something meaningful to me.. So much intimacy in drinking tea with someone that means something .. I love especially drinking tea when I burn a spliff .. In the pic at the bottom is fresh mint leaves my mom got for me.. A lot of antioxidants in tea.. Really good to put in your body 

I don't trust not one Human... I like people to know this very early on ...... I  just rely on certain people to do less damage, less harm than others... But No ones worth trust .. This is not something I'm proud of.. Some people go around talking bout they don't trust no one like their some Vigilante, living in a world with no trust in your heart, your working 10 times harder but with more precise results cuz there's no one else to fuck something up but u .. But people who do place trust in others work less hard with the Risk of something going wrong in someone else's hands..that's not something I'm willing to do, yet I'm not proud of the fact that I don't trust .. But this is what happens when too much lustful,greedy people force u in that safety box.. You never wana come out @chrisdread 

A man Can Not Un-Love a woman ... Once he loves her he loves her for the rest of his life.. A mans true love is  irreversible .. No matter how Dirty the B**ch get.. Hes always waiting to say "Yes" to her again..has always waiting for her to need him one day.. Cuz he wants to see her and reminisce.. He's always Gona talk about how they first met and remind him how much she meant to him...@chrisdread

I've never been the religious type..I'm more spiritual and cultural type of individual.. I feel less restricted.. But the  "Tea Drinking" culture is one I've always felt connected to .. So much honor in simply and drinking  and they way the Japanese serve tea.. It's very intimate and romantic... So much enchantment in the way a person serves you.. "One of the most endearing gestures is someone offering to drink tea with me" if anyone knows me really well, they see me drink tea all the time.. I drink tea on average 3 times a day ..warm or cold .. But I really wish I was in a habitat that practiced these customs.. Sometimes where u are is not where u belong .. So you have to improvise.. Maybe the woman I end up with can either feel the same about tea or adapt to something meaningful to me.. So much intimacy in drinking tea with someone that means something .. I love especially drinking tea when I burn a spliff .. In the pic at the bottom is fresh mint leaves my mom got for me.. A lot of antioxidants in tea.. Really good to put in your body