Our oppressors shape our society and the way it thinks... Even in love and relationships. Remember we had our own system on how we did things and how we honored one another b4 we were made captives ... One The worst impressions our oppressors gave us was, you having to be in a relationship in order to experience  the best intimate love and not teaching us to fall in love before you decide on being in a relationship with that person..  Or that titles may only be important with a person you chose as your life partner, and that there's different forms of companionship and relationships.. Or not teaching us that we are here to love and not posses. Or that we may have experience less bad relationships and heart ache  in our lives had we just sought love from a person rather than a titles set with boundaries that this person wasn't prepared to live within ... Or having a Lable doesn't exempt you from being deceived and often titles and Lable's is where lies and temptations begin ...  Where we're from we lived very differently and respected love, community and family a very different way ...And we have lost that, living the way they do.. How they do things haven't worked for us. And won't. This is why the black disparity not only includes racism and brutality from police, and discrimination, poverty, but our lives lives are problematic because who we are, we lived in "community" not 1 on 1 relationship set ups and putting money together to pay bills...We had a different way of successfully building empires , raising kids, teaching them, protecting our women and children, there was a different way black women worked together rather than seeing their sisters as competition or threats, there was a different way black men looked at one another and treated each other .. Whether u believe this or not, that is ok...But you can't ignore..Our oppressors way does not work for us..

Having a 9-5 for me always felt more so a challenge of trying not to look at the Clock for as long a possible more so than the work ... Some how you feel that makes the day go by faster.... By ignoring time. But just like how that time goes by in your job that you dread, time is going by in your life too..  That's why the key was always not having to work a 9-5 at all or having a job that you loved. So work wouldn't feel like work . You go there with the enthusiasm of knowing that, I love doing this. That makes life feel good especially if your getting paid well.. 

       But the reality is not everyone can wake up and do that, be that ... Some people have unique obstacles .. They see where they wana go in the horizon but the distance is unknown.. Just wana say hang in there. We all have incredible potential to will the proper things in your realm by using time more consciously.. Using time wisely to concentrate on our task and our leisures ..Time for rest, time to properly eat and digest food. Time to listen to our inner thoughts and feelings and really feel out and ask ourselves, what do I want to do, how do I wana help the world, and what type of person do I dream to love and does this type of person actually exist...But take each day at a time, one step at a time to carefully climb over these personal obstacles, don't rush, don't be afraid to ask for love, help and guidance..Never seek pity only love. Just keep that horizon in sight. We are all wondrous potential