It's the subtlety in romance that's gets me.. My lover, I'd imagine, would probably be more ordinary than most people would imagine .. I just want her body to always smell good .. The sound of her voice to pierce straight through me .. And for her to just consider me always, but smart enough to never put me before her happiness if I stumble too hard on my own greed .. In which I can only pray that I'm ready to accept this sort of union only when I'm built to do so .. I want a woman to die old and happy knowing that she had a man and a friend that truly loved her..Our mother and father Creates and raise us and we love them deeply for that .. Your family members, brothers, sisters , aunts , uncles , grandparents, cousins Ect...we love them because they are our flesh and blood, This love is deep.. We grow up and make babies of our own and there's truly no love more precocious than that .. But I truly believe .. The most Vital of them all as far as what we need emotionally... The love that we are all made to experience but so many of us never get to, despite how hard we work everyday as adults trying to obtain... The Love of your Companion, your Husband/Wife.. This love completes you .. God bless you all on your journey ..  Go forth, Sincere and True. And go beyond the norm.. Go for what you know is peaceful. The excitement part is great but in the end you want peace within your heart .  Always convert back to peace as it relates to the idea of a lover #chrisdread

In the history of America, The Lives of Black Couples and the Conditions of  Black relationships for lovers, as far as happiness , harmony, unity, strength, communication, security, progress, togetherness, longevity Ect, have always been a battle for us.. And I think we forget that as black people we are under different circumstances and the conditions for us here are a lot different from  everyone else.. Nevertheless we persevere.. There's this image of black love that's admirable to any one that can observe it.. It's gorgeous and inspiring .. What we come from, what we must do to fight and stay together under the conditions set against black men and black woman as individuals, to then dare them to try and love one another in a healthy manner, raise children with a healthy mentality, maintain a home and still be happy with the person you come home to everyday .. To me quit frankly it's "fucking amazing" 

You see we forget that for hundreds of years the memories of what they did to us is not only reiterated in all the movies, books, documentaries Ect ..  But it is placed in our bone marrow.. Coded within us, the horrors that we endured .. The woman of today may not have had white men snatch them from their husbands and raped in front of them wile the husband wasn't even allowed to shed a tear.. What that does to a woman psychologically  over time.. Or black male slaves forced to have sex with black woman to make more slaves and disregard the child .. All of this is still with us ... Black people today are trying so hard to love each other and everyday wonder what's wrong with us.. We never had therapy or psychoanalysis.. We didn't get rehabilitated once we was set free .. Who's Gona answer for all this mental turmoil ?? No one, we have to sit here and figure this shit out for ourselves mean wile they still killing us and salving us to death just in a modern fashion .. Every single time they try to shut us down, we keep working .. You can't break black!! But we have to start looking at each other as lovers and really work on reconditioning our thinking as human beings .. But we have to fix and adjust our place in this world first .. We are the most beautiful people and we don't act like it.. We have to open the dialog between one another and realize we are no longer to blame, no more pointing fingers at each other, we are supposed to be on the same side .. The blame game is over .. Let's work! #chrisdread

A mans love life path is so much different from a woman's ... As a man, Your wife has a face, a look and a voice that your always looking out for .. We visualize her always seeking her in the crowd.. We know when we're getting closer and we can feel when she's drifting away.. We may either know her and don't realize it or she may be floating around somewhere but, nevertheless, she's there.. And she's going through a set of situations that shapes and molds who she is.. So wile you both are growing, Yall have no idea when and how you will find each other but the feeling of that person burns inside you everyday.. A man will fall in love at best 3 times attempting to discover his wife in a particular individual.. You must understand, in order to bestow this position to a woman, she must have great importance, and if you observe her she's usually completely unique from his standard attraction .. Now women are geared to fall in love as much times as her heart and body will permit,looking for that one man.. That man she feels most Protected by and loved by.. When a man makes that decision that he has finally chosen that girl he feels is of wife potential, he becomes aggressive at trying to make her see that she has been chosen and he wants you only .. Sometimes this woman has someone already that YOU KNOW AINT GONA LAST .. Or 85 percent of the time she has been hurt battered and bruised emotionally at this point and can't let in this blessing.. The blessing that she has no idea exist because she's been not only told but shown that men ain't shit from a couple bad seeds .. The problem is you look like every other man to her.. She can't see you, the inner you because that person she sees on the outside represents heartbreak.. But the one in the end of this moment with the broken heart is you .. Because your wife is right here,SHE RIGHT THERE!!!, and she can't see you or hear you.. Now u have to let it go... Then this same women ends up with some nigga that somehow got her to open up and as the man that seen her in the best quality, you know more than her if she's wasting her time with this man she, for some reason, chose over you.. But you can't tell her because it's not your place.. Now all these other women who wants you, you can't see the blessing in that cuz you only what who u want. And who you want you can't always have...we all have to deal with that at some point .. #chrisdread

I had to teach myself not to Pursue Love or the Person I think Love Lives Inside of .. Most of the time it's really the Excitement of Lust that your mistaking for the feeling of the potential love.. Now I more so try to not wait on it, nor expect it or anticipate it.. Because I realize Love is bigger than this satisfying emotional feeling.. We simplified it because we Really enjoy the word Love as it relates to how we feel about people and things.. When for me, the truth is, Trying to define Love is almost the Equivalent of trying to define the Divinity of God.. And you don't wait on God, you don't anticipate God. You Trust the belief that God is apart of you and always with you. And when God or Love  shows it self, my personal responsibility is to groom and mature myself to be able to see it, recognize it, accept it and use it productively, never taking for granted it's Divinity..  We must know the difference between Lust and Love though. They never taught us that Lust is a huge word, nearly as Huge as Love.. Nearly the same feelings, Nearly the same characteristics.. Accept I think that Lust more so relates to our interest in a persons Physical, Sexual,Mental and sociable Dexterity... Where Love to me, more so relates to the depth of our emotions for someone or something and how it correspondence "Spiritually"... #chrisdread 

When you have a quiet moment to your self..... Do you evaluate your relationship? and do you evaluate your actions within this relationship?Think of it, think of how your feeling in it, think about how happy you"Really"feel, think about how pleased you "Really" are.. Do you have any doubt by any chance or are you confident ?Ask yourself.. Am I really in love ? Am I with the last person I'm going to be with for the rest of my life ? Is it you? Am I urged at all to want to try other lovers still? Will this please me forever?Am I in this relationship just to pass the time? Do I subconsciously think it's going to end soon and I'm just doing it for now? 

Well if any of you have ever thought this or will begin to think this after reading it.

Sit your lover down and, "HAVE  THE CONVERSATION"!!' Because who really has the time to waste you know? You have to have those conversation if you have theses kinds of thoughts.. 

Shouts to all the people "Who just know"! They know they made, not the right decision, but a "Great Decision".. #chrisdread 

"She became immune to the compliments she received everyday from her Admirers .... Yet, She yearned and so deeply desired the compliment from the one who took her most for Granted.. Sad to know that man is the same man she dedicated her life to"

How simply Ironic.. #chrisdread

Wow .. Kind of a lonely night .. Didn't see it coming lol.. Damn, a man in my position can be doing some wild shit right now .. But I guess to abstain from lustful traits maintains the Enchantment of desire ... "That's what being single is like ... A Tactical assortment of habits to keep the moral of things in order .. So when the right situation comes along your not just dead and numb from convincing yaself not to feel, because you have no one to feel for ... Although being single, in my opinion, is the most fantastic decision based on the connection with self awareness and the journey of learning  you undergo that no other decision brings you... But you have to be very careful because you can lose all concepts of partnership ...

Nights like this tho,you do wonder what the alternative would feel like .. To automatically know where your comfort is coming from night by night.. #chrisdread 

Hate to see a woman going madddd hard for a Nigga that treats her like shit and cheats on her carelessly .. She posting pics of bae and he fucking all her friends ..  Especially when u close to her and u know she a dummy type that if u tell her she look stupid and getting treated like shit, she'll actually cut u off ..... Some of yall really think yall got a fly nigga tho .. I don't get it .. Do u have Glaucoma ?? Are u blind .. Ya man corny as fuck he ugly and the only reason u with him cuz he maintaining u .. You see first hand how money makes a chick deal with bull shit 

I always said .. When a woman can take care of herself she chooses who she wants to fuck .. A good looking woman with no money fucks who ever chooses her, who ever pays her off to keep her mouth shut and deal with bullshit cuz he control u.. #chrisdread

Our roles of Masculinity convinces us that the more women you have sex with the more powerful and fulfilled you'd become ... We learn far too late that this is a major misconception .. They don't tell you  that often it leaves you Numb, Empty and Emotionally Discontent..   Nevertheless you'll have really good dick and an acute understanding of how to please a woman .. You'd be a fool to put yourself through such a rigorous social path and not learn a thing or two.. The more experience you have with women the more you realize you can never answer the infamous Question of "what do women want".. The only question you need to answer is "What Do Me and MY WOMAN Want" pace yourself gentlemen..We are in total control of this.. #chrisdread

Too high of a majority of black men hate each other and are constantly waiting for a nigga to say the wrong word to them just to have a reason to take their life ....where did we get that from ? Why is the taste of our own blood our favorite flavor ? you know the mental condition of a soldier is corrupt when he is satisfied with the death of his own army .. Too much of our wives, mothers , sisters children have cried for us..#chrisdread  

Never judge the love or respect someone has for you when things are going well.. Wait a lil wile,You judge it when things get bad or when shit hits the fan..the  love and respect you experienced in those  times is the real kind ..#chrisdread

You can have my Love but that doesn't mean u have power over my emotions ..  No one has power over my emotions because  if your smart you know not to trust words, only action .. When my interest is with someone the only thing someone can do is waste my TIME!! Which I take more serious than anything .. So what this means is .. If you waste my time u will never get even close to wasting my emotions .. You'll be gone before I can feel any emotional discomfort ... Time being wasted on someone saying what they don't mean or not meaning what they say and not acting upon what they claim to Guarantee of themselves is the biggest offense .. Dealing with you as if there's more important people that they effortlessly but before you or making u feel like 4th string options Ect .. Things like this you don't get emotional about .. You simply cut the string ..After a point of maturity ALL you'll accept is the deepest meaningful connection, not that, "See me when you ready or when your bored crap, text me back when you feel like it, call me when u feel like it" it is true that when someone means that much,you jump at the first opportunity to have them around and the ones that means less,they have to wait!! It is how we all move with one another ..  The more mature you become the more respect for time you have .. Your time and others .. Growing up helps you manage and respect it better .. Because no one likes the feeling of being taken for granted..Sometimes when your talking to someone and your pleading with them like "come on what is this ? do you wana do this or not? Are u interested or not? Humans will STILL say yes knowing they don't have the action or interest to prove it.. This is something I do not do to people and something I can't have done with me.. When you older you don't have patients to date .. You wana know right away, like look, do you fuck with me or not!!? Lol   ..#chrisdread