"We used to be attracted to a person for a reason .... Like a real one too. Not this illusion. We used to catch feelings for the person we seen everyday in school.. Seeing how they move, interact with you, with others. Walking by them and smelling how they smell. And when the teacher said, "Find a Partner" omg you hoped that person wanted to work with you. Or the days where people actually wanted to hook you up with a person they had confidence in..  The friends who hooked you up because they felt y'all had similar personalities, similar interest. Not based on "girllll he got money and a niceee car" or "yo son she not all that pretty but she got a fat ass and I heard she a freak and she like girls" Just selling meat and Money to one another as a dream.. But these dreams are only temporary pleasures if your lucky.. Or what that one dance can do like Beres song. You go out one night especially back then when the music was good. And that one person you catching eye contact with all night finally position themselves in that ever so inviting manner.. The body language is electric and from that dance you already planning the future with that person ... But they changed the music so they changed the sentiment of that  aspect of the club that we forget... 

     So ask your self .. After School is over. After the club gets old .. After you experience too much of your friends hooking you up with weirdos .. Where do we go for love ? Where do we find it? The Church?? Ha! Foh! The work place? Tuh!!! From experience... A double FOh!! What's the new median......... 

        SOCIAL SITES... The worst of them all.

We have now seen soooooo many people resorting to meeting people on social sites, hooking up and seeing where it can go. Many hate to admit they meet people off of Face Book, InstaGram, SnapChat Ect.... But the fact of the matter is that it's happening .. And it's a complete illusion .. What can we possibly think is realistic about scrolling up and down all day every day looking at All The ASS and money and cars and memes ...  None of this shit is real !! It doesn't actually exist !! Of course your gona go after the girl with the pretty face and fat ass that you follow Who's ofc "about her money" who keeps breaking up with her man and getting back together, taking the pics down and putting them up again.. ..But a man going after her more often is sexually motivated.. But it's not how we supposed to actually court one another .. It's strange ..People actually have major expectations off a system where people let you see "WHAT THEY WANT YOU YO SEE" most are perpetuating what they want you to think their life is and how they look all the time if the camera wasn't there... We didn't have that capability at a time.. In order to really grasp someone's attention you had to really be on your A game. Much more harder to lie then, which has become so easy now.. 

    

What I'm saying is... Just don't lose the feeling of the earth underneath u... Stay grounded .. Remember this is a cyber world now.. The temperature of the human blood is cooling.. See it. feel it. Acknowledge that in this moment many of the younger generations will never ever fall In love the way humans did. The way our elders did. The love that builds strong bonds, families that last. This technology is killing us and though we are all apart of its use, I am holding on to the "idea", of the enchantment of love and what it was before this mega era of technology.. Just thinking about our kids really.. #chrisdread 

"Men never changed... Women did. Society wasn't ready for that"

Whatever woman I end up with .. We gota be doing this life work together .. Helping people together .. No man is looking for an "Independent Strong Black woman" That just sounds like a Lesbian that hates men.. We don't mind Dependent, because to depend on me doesn't mean your weak .. I'm ya man you should look to me for a bulk of support .. And because I'm ya man, it doesn't mean I can't depend on you and be a leader in one .. We got our whole lives screwed up with societies terms .. We sound so incredibly dumb everyday ..  We want our woman to be as smart as she can be, as strong as she can be, but only as independent as she can be  if something was to happen to her man, or if God forbid she was abandoned.. We need men and women to be strong individually if they have to be alone but the coalition of man and woman is ideal ..

   To the oppressors of this nation, Nothing is more threatening than the black child, the black woman and most certainly the black man .. So why stand alone? Why leave our children to raise themselves wile we fight each other .. What you think the civil rights movement was about .. Black men and women standing together .. They brought the feminist movement in there and broke that beautiful coalition apart .. Now look at us .. We have this distain towards one another...Cant seem to get back on the same page unless we laying in bed together and that's just to comfort what we have yet to understand ..  Then after the bed, comes expectations that doesn't express, what "time together" reveals.

   Y'all not hearing me. I'm just another nigga writing for "likes" right ? That's what y'all say ?  #chrisdread

When a woman is "Truly" ready to be a good Woman. She will then choose a good man.. Not a hot boy, not a hustler, not he play boy, not the sameeeeee kind of guy she dated year after year that breaks  her heart or that's back and forth with his baby mama, back and forth in jail, always out in the club, prefers to be wth his boys Ect Ect .. All the things woman complain about they put up with it cuz , they may not know it, but they ain't ready to be as serious as they can be.. 

    Because to believe that this is the only type of guy that's around is asinine... There's so much real men, good men out here but in order to be with them, you have to be serious and on ya strict behavior in order to match his goodness .. Because for some reason, a good man is rare in so many black women's experiences, that when she actually encounters one it's like meeting a real life XMEN CHARACTER.. And she subconsciously knows like, Damn this nigga like 5 times smarter than me, he's focused, he strong, he powerful, and because of that he demands a great deal of respect and I'm not running away because of him .. I'm curving him because subconsciously I'm not ready to be that serious .. I'm not ready to accept a good man.. I'm not done playing around and dating and being showered with gifts and for some , being a low key being a hoe.. I'm still irresponsible and I'm growing so I'm just gona keep messing with these suckers and keep blaming them for my unhappiness ..  And although THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL WOMAN obviously but if I don't say it some decrepit woman is gona come say "well not all woman" like duhhh.. But in retrospect I know this to be a accurate occurrence cuz so many women give the testimony of them finally growing up and reach an altitude that allows u to finally say "hey you know what now I'm ready" y'all no different from men in this matter cuz men do it too .. Men run away from that woman that they know they can't be a playboy with or an asshole so they deal with the women that will take all they shit.. Till he ready to be with a woman who he knows satisfies him .. We out here doing the same shit so don't tell me we don't understand each other ...

Friendships, mixed with love, attraction,interest,intimacy, passion.. It's so much more common now.. There's not that divine separation anymore in many cases ... Between role changes and taboos falling slowly, you really start to think of what contributed to this atmosphere of sexual energy amongst friends of the opposite sex .. How should it be approached, or if at all .. 

  All of us has probably experienced being attracted to a friend but should you cross that line ? Can you trust what comes next ? Then it makes you wonder also, "who's the best type of lover ? An established friend growing into a lover or a perfect stranger growing into it all ? Very interesting thing when you think about it. #chrisdread 

Chris Dread :My views on Polygamy and Monogamy

I think possibly from early on promiscuity always existed.. So did commitment. I think that innate desire to commit comes from the perseverance of love between two people. It's strange to me, how in today society we see so many people against polygamy yet more than half of the people in the world who are in a committed relationship is cheating on their lover. This says something very loudly ..  We are a society that believe monogamy is a real human thing, but I feel very different about that now .. At one point especially growing up In a Christian environment, something always felt contradictory about every doctrine of Christianity .. You can bomb buildings and steal and destroy shit, yet just simply repent and it's all goes poof !! Since monogamy is a man made term, does it truly express the true human desire or just a term brought on to express a religious law ... Religious purpose should be for a positive order .. But how were humans living before these man made doctrines .. We know polygamy existed but most of us don't know why, and even more distant, we can't emotionally connect to the idea because this is a "Completely" different time of living ..   

     We don't talk about sex rawly enough .. We have to realize homes and families have been torn because we Refuse to truly confront and confirm what our true sexual desires are from the start and also, as they evolve .. You believe in monogamy ? Why are so many people feeling the complete need to commit, even get married yet can't stop fucking other people .. And this is men and women .. I understand what it is to be in a committed relationship and I understand what it means to be in a polygamist relationship because I've had both experiences IN REAL LIFE ..  Now in today's society I wouldn't be urged to be in a polygamist relationship again only because this society is completely un designed  for it.. So many people are against it door to door it just doesn't feel natural here .. 

   If you can't see past the Sex you can't see far ...  If you don't really sit down and think of the two women involved, or 3 or 4.... If you can't think "hmmm, what would make two beautiful,gorgeous, young, smart women openly share a man, have his babies? Coexist in the home as family or as lovers themselves,Find their own passion for one another.? And I'll tell you this. A lot of men in this position, I assure you are either very powerful or wealthy .. Most men in them times had as much wives and kids his money could accommodate .. And nothing more. Everyone was taken care of.. Some women did it because she had beauty and her family was dirt poor so she married into wealth and bared children .. Or something simple as having many cattle .. We don't understand that now. The world is a very different place .. Especially for a feminist of any young Queen feeling empowered .. Y'all are changing the game for y'all self and thats great to me.. But I just try and digest all ideas.. I try to erase emotion when trying to see a different side of things ..This is a sensitive topic as I said but it's all in how your mind works I don't think anything here can be definitive or condemned #chrisdread

I never supported the idea of going to sleep without talking it through .. 

"It's easy to make peace with something u both understand, but u never make peace where there's no understanding"  .. Always talk it out . What's left out will always be brought  up.. Why do you think y'all arguing about the same ole stuff.. Because either one of you, or both of you wont say everything needed to be said to kill the issue .. TALK IT OUT!! Be EXPLICIT but remember to have compassion. Watch the tone and choice of words that are combative rather than healing .. #chrisdread 

Attraction or Interest?

Attraction isn't the same as Interest ... Attraction is when a person is stimulated by either ur appearance, your attitude, personality,stature Ect .. Interest is when u wana get to know or Peruse some one your attracted to ......

    Now no one likes rejection im sure but men in particular I find get really frazzled by when a woman shows her attraction to him but doesn't show interest .. Because the practicality of men allows us to feel that if ur attracted to me, then why aren't u giving me access to you .. We are sexually driven so attraction to us means access simply because when we attracted to a woman we just let her right in ..Men's  first thought isn't always , well maybe she has a boyfriend or maybe she just not trying to be involved with anyone at the moment or heck, maybe she just don't like him like that.. She can be attracted to you but doesn't mean you give her the impulse to say "hmmm I have to have this man in my life" .. A woman is completely designed to be on a defense and we are designed to be offense ..  Being entered sexually has to completely change your mentality as far as how u see the sociological    Process, Sex and the nature of that decision on who she lets enter her vagina .. Having a penis hanging forward give us a feeling of pursuit, as we are the aggressors .. 

    

Teach these young Queens that's sex is at your discretion and it is your choice and never his.. Your gona make choices sexually that you will learn from whether good or bad and that's your own special story .., but we also have to teach young men to value sexual decisions as well and that charisma comes from letting the process happen naturally.. Being graceful and compassionate about it.. Teach him that his life is very different from hers and his feeling are different.. And she is the one you protect at all cost.. But he should know that attraction is not interest .. It's all a game out here and women are fully equipped to play and control a mans mind .. He needs to be free and independent from that or atleats aware of the difference ..#chrisdread

We can't keep dealing with choices... We have to deal with decisions #chrisdread