Chris Dread's Blog

I fell in love many days.. I'm fulfilled emotionally and still learning so much more .. Just want to embrace the innocence of love and enjoy it in my own time ..  Sadly we live in a time where some people still have the need to be in a relationship yet have lost the moral content behind maintaining a healthy one.. And my mindset is just not with that ..  This next relationship has to be real i don't care if I reach 60 until it happens.. If it's not the real deal I mind as well stay my ass single, cuz idk about y'all .. But there's many times I enjoy love much more being single than I do in "certain  relationships" ..We all express love differently, we Translate it differently so we experience it differently   .. Some people get into relationships and only focus on the boundaries of the commitment and how much their lover steps out side it..Then some people lean towards Solely the Love aspect and just have a more free flowing momentum. Listen..... The things people create drama out of in their relationships are Ridiculous!! A week later people be sitting there saying Damn" we fought over you putting the Spoons where the Fork goes in the draw" like some dumb shit like that..... YO!! That's not normal. Not to me. You pick a fight with me bout some damn forks that means your a problematic asshole 🙄.. Life can be soooo good if we just learn to negate those kinds of useless quarrels  .. Some people just can't handle that !! And some people think that's love ..  Those oppositions should never blend .. So I know myself . A healthy relationship is 2 individual people thinking and moving as one, in unison ... Not the opposite .. And of course arguments are not uncommon .. That's apart of being alive. But it has to be some consciousness drawn towards being responsible enough to know when to utilize an argument and when it's just damaging and pointless .. You have to sharpen that ability to recognize when it's happening, wile its happening and train yaself away from it..  People walking around with pride saying stuff like " oh I know I can be a bitch or I know I can be stubborn or I know I can be dismissive or I know I can be a lil crazy at times but I can't help it that's just me!!" NO!!! You can help it, if you know it's bad then change it... Because if you REALLY love a person and if u knew  any of those factors listed was causing more harm than good then you would get rid of it right away end of story .. But in this society, we don't love freely... We love under terms and conditions.. "Even with little arrogant stuff like "oh well this is who I was before you met me and this is what you have to deal with, I've always been this way" ... Well then you haven't grasped the concept of love.. To love is to nearly always conform..Not abusing yourself for the pleasure of your lover but, to conform organically .#chrisdread