Our oppressors shape our society and the way it thinks... Even in love and relationships. Remember we had our own system on how we did things and how we honored one another b4 we were made captives ... One The worst impressions our oppressors gave us was, you having to be in a relationship in order to experience the best intimate love and not teaching us to fall in love before you decide on being in a relationship with that person.. Or that titles may only be important with a person you chose as your life partner, and that there's different forms of companionship and relationships.. Or not teaching us that we are here to love and not posses. Or that we may have experience less bad relationships and heart ache in our lives had we just sought love from a person rather than a titles set with boundaries that this person wasn't prepared to live within ... Or having a Lable doesn't exempt you from being deceived and often titles and Lable's is where lies and temptations begin ... Where we're from we lived very differently and respected love, community and family a very different way ...And we have lost that, living the way they do.. How they do things haven't worked for us. And won't. This is why the black disparity not only includes racism and brutality from police, and discrimination, poverty, but our lives lives are problematic because who we are, we lived in "community" not 1 on 1 relationship set ups and putting money together to pay bills...We had a different way of successfully building empires , raising kids, teaching them, protecting our women and children, there was a different way black women worked together rather than seeing their sisters as competition or threats, there was a different way black men looked at one another and treated each other .. Whether u believe this or not, that is ok...But you can't ignore..Our oppressors way does not work for us..
The process of unlearning these destructive behaviors isn't easy... it's extremely necessary at this time that the change is made tho, it's only gonna get harder for people to really understand and feel what true love is the more technology and social media evolves. The definition of love may be something completely different from what we know it to be 10yrs from now... i just hope to never get lost in this relationship, love, ownership matrix, it's a really ugly beast.
ReplyDeleteThe process of unlearning these destructive behaviors isn't easy... it's extremely necessary at this time that the change is made tho, it's only gonna get harder for people to really understand and feel what true love is the more technology and social media evolves. The definition of love may be something completely different from what we know it to be 10yrs from now... i just hope to never get lost in this relationship, love, ownership matrix, it's a really ugly beast.
ReplyDeleteThe process of unlearning these destructive behaviors isn't easy... it's extremely necessary at this time that the change is made tho, it's only gonna get harder for people to really understand and feel what true love is the more technology and social media evolves. The definition of love may be something completely different from what we know it to be 10yrs from now... i just hope to never get lost in this relationship, love, ownership matrix, it's a really ugly beast.
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