One of the most sophisticated things I ever heard my mother in terms of relationships was in this social documentary we filmed that she made a cameo in .....
"In marriage/relationships sometimes you have to learn to turn the other cheek, and when your young, you don't really know how to do that"
I was shocked that came out her mouth, like turn the other cheek? I'm not exactly the turning the other cheek type lol .. I sat with that for a wile on my head like .... "what made her say that ... Trying see understand if that was strength or weakness.. I mean it's your mom so I really wanted to study that reasoning ... Then like a cool ocean mist it hit me... like ohhhhhhhhhh yea .... I get it. #Mom
To go that distance .. I mean when you love someone, and I mean truly! Yes there's gona be days u wana ring their neck, yes there's gona be days where your trust is compromised and your unhappy, and you need space, but u miss them so u wana cuddle and have sex, and ur confused , and oh he needs a better job , or she needs to stop being lazy , or you need to stop being so jealous , or u need to stop being so sneaky... but at some point you realize ok I do love you and we are here and we do have good times but do I wana go the distance with you ? And if That answer is unequivocally yes, then this is where the challenges should actually begin not before. This is where turning the other cheek comes into place .. not saying ignore the reckless shit someone is doing it taking abuse of any form or allowing someone to cheat on u .. but just understanding simple things like understanding that your spouse may enjoy friendships of the opposite sex and they don't want u to feel offended by that, or when your spouse comes home make it a place of peace and not charging them with issues as soon as they walk in , if they wana get away with their friends just to have a little fun, try to understand that .. ofc all this should come with respect and balance on both ends but learn to turn the other cheek and let them be who they really are and try to love them that way before trying to make your love change them into what u "personally" want them to be .. "TOGETHER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES" thing about that ... so whatever age you are currently if your in a relationship, marriage or just believe your in love with whoever and y'all are thinking "where Gona spend the rest of our lives together" just think about all the changes and stages you both have to mature into and evolve, wile having that person there.. To go that distance, every time something happens that u don't like u can't be like " IM DONE IM DONE " all the time .. That seems to be the norm now.. Remember unlike our parents era we now have social media where we see sexy humans all day doing anything from being naked to working out or doing yoga, spending money... it's easy to drop someone and pick up something better(so you think) So commitment in itself is compromised .. It's harder to do and no one wants to admit that ... Women are making a lot more money than men on average , y'all are the ones stuck with a lot of the finical responsibility so your less docile and more dominant now a days and the world hasn't handled that well because we live in this chauvinistic white male society.. and he subconsciously is the only man deserving of respect because he is either in control or he is feared .. Nevertheless if we want out relationships to succeed we have to truly take time in understanding and respecting one another's individualism.. to go that distance we must respect each other's individualism.. Allowing themselves to be who they truly are or else being with you, who struggles with who they truly are makes you hard to be with .... #chrisdread
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