Being in a "Committed" relationship takes tenacity.. Because to chose one person over all the hundreds of amazing people that you encounter day to day is a huge idea.. An idea that says "Socially, Romantically, Sexually, Mentally, Spiritually I will isolate myself to you giving no one else access to me the way I give you because I believe the love that I feel for you is greater than the love I can potentially feel for someone else at this time.. That I, at whatever point,decided to commit to you, feel it's worth Never knowing what I could of potentially had with someone else, where I would of ended up, or what else I could be doing ......Now to me That's commitment Not Monogamy..
Now when I really think about this, not only is it something that sounds completely boring, but it's almost completely opposite of my personality. I hate Limits, I hate boundaries, and not much people is even that interesting to fulfill my interest consistently enough through my lifetime. Which brings me to say...
This is why love is so special, so real. That one person can totally render you helpless against them. That you've developed a love so deep for someone that all you see in your life is them. That one day without them physically hurts. The thing people have twisted is that in order for you to feel love that deep you need to be in a Committed relationship .. Or in order for you to love someone that deep there needs to be trust .. I tell people all the time I love without trust because when u love someone, 2 things happen .. When you spend enough time with someone you begin to understand them.. Love is accomplished when u accept what u understand .. This way I don't need to be wrapped up in trust or distrust .. Because I already understand you..I may rely on u do do what I expect you to do but I don't trust anyone.. Love is not this selfish thing where u put it in a box and carry it around .. Love is simply an energy we borrow.. Not all the time we don't get to keep it. Sometimes we have to give it back.. Don't get to emotional about that. We are not here to love 1 thing .. That is an oppressive idea from the start .. Then you as seldom people celebrating their 50th anniversary.. Then you say "how the hell they spent 50yrs together and I can't even last 5 months" You wana spend 50yrs with someone first u gota mean it and not just say it.. Then u have to realize you need to understand love inorder to do that, not trust.. Trust ain't ever get us anywhere. Commitment, Trust, Monogamy are all just Terms related to "Relationships" of the western culture.. Love in itself is a natural resource flowing through our body.. It's a magical difference. And note! Not all people are supposed to be in a relationship. In our society being single is like having a criminal record of some sort.. Your shunned in society. Your part of a group that shouldn't exist .. Like as much as a person has the natural desire to be committed, people also have the natural desire to love when they want and how they want and in their own discretion.. #chrisdread
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